I will never be nominated for Mother of the year Award thread

[zoo357]

I can say at least I'm not the only one that won't get the Mother of the Year award (wiping sweat off of brow)

 

[True Grit]

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[peeplessinNC]

Just wanted to say that I had such a wonderful Mother's Day yesterday with both my sons. They are 34 and 37 now and are so loving and appreciative - it just warms a mom's heart. We went to see my parents at the Memory Care Center where my dad is a patient. My younger sister was also up for the day. Then we came back to my house for dinner. I just love cooking for my boys and DS#2 likes to cook so he made the corn pudding for our dinner of ham, green beans, the corn pudding, fresh salad, and homemade bread. I usually have some "honey do" things for them when they come to visit and we got those done. We watched some golf on TV and talked future computer plans. We plan to have dinner in June at DS#2's house and do something on his grill.

I hope all the moms on BYC enjoyed their Mother's Day as well.

 

[CranberryCreekFarm]

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I have the no food rule too... but I am always missing things like forks, spoons, bowls, or cups. I go upstairs and guess what I find? empty pop cans (not allowed to have pop so I stopped buying it), forks, spoons, bowls, and cups.

I give up.

Same here, my ds (4) and my dd(2) have their own rooms upstairs, We just chuck their toys in the toybox randomly since I learned quick that nothing stays sorted and organized up there. Anyways, we have the no food rule, I go upstairs to find sticky juice and apple cores. So I told my DS that if he kept bringing food to his room or let his sister eat or drink upstairs then ants were going to crawl over them while they slept and bite them thinking they were apple chunks. So come bedtime, both my kids are shivvering in fear, telling dh where all their food is stashed! Sure enough, chocolate syrup, apples, butter...we found it all...Of course now my plan backfired since I am 30 weeks pregnant eating poptarts in my bed this am and my kids both came in yelling at me saying the ants were going to chew on me!

I lie to my kids. Like If we are sick of eating burger king, I will tell them they are closed, just so we can eat something different.

They also had a wicked potty mouth problem. So I tried the soap method.....it didnt last long after that... My mother in law thinks I am "barbaric" because of my parenting methods. I just dont let them get away with much. Plus, where my dd is a redhead, she tries everything at least once!

 

[Dar]

I think I got brownie points for MOTY...

I sat waiting in line for 13+ hours on saturday morning so my son would meet his fave author and rock star at a book signing...

 

[feather and mountain man]

I have to say that I am strict but i do not yell or scream. Ranting and raving is not my style. All I have to do is give the stink eye and the kids know the punishment is soon to follow. They don't like to loose video games and cell phones or clean chicken pens or other really unpleasant chores like cleaning the back bathroom. So having said all that I also have to say as my kids are getting older and more mature or maybe I am maturing with them too, I am a lot more mellowed out than say 10 yrs ago. But I think possibly that since I was so strict and spanked them they are so well behave as teens and preteens. Even my youngest DS who is 7yrs is well behave and I can only remember him getting spanked once in his life.


I did have a great time on Mothers Day. We had a cookout at my parents house. Hope you all did too!

 

[mame1616]

I'm not much of a screamer, either. I raise my voice, but it always seems more effective to be quieter. My girls know that I've reached my limit when I say "I'm getting annoyed." If they want to take a chance after that, it's their funeral - they've learned the consequences. My sister's phrase is "I wouldn't."

What warning phrases does everyone else have?

 

[peeplessinNC]

Mine was counting to three - actually only got to 3 just a few times. Usually by 1 or 2 they were starting to "move it."

 

[sammileah]

My darling sons like to watch my head spin. They are always grounded back to the 80s plus have no toys. All that plus yelling counting , corners, spanking and I still have to have a mental break and spit pea soup a few time a yr to get something simple done. And I give warnings too.

 

[ChickenAlgebra]

Me screaming gets nothing and no where. Come on here, I'm bantam sized - I make a Serama look big. My kids roll their eyes and ignore me screaming.

My warning phrase is the Mother's Glare of Doom added to the "You won't like what happens if you...." Sometimes if I'll break out the I'm counting to 3 - 1... tw - done. I've never had to even start the 3. Unlike some kids who get the I'm counting to 3 - 1, 1 1/2, 2, 2 1/2, 3. Ok, I'm counting to 5 - 1, 1 1/2, 2, 2 1/2... 4 1/8, 4 1/4, 4 3/8... Why can't you just listen whine from parent.

I've given a few butt smacks for behavior when they are toddlers. It was reserved for extreme behavior - like running out into the street. Otherwise, I just ignored a lot of the bad behavior - flat out ignored. You don't like something, fuss and scream until you pass out, I do not care, I keep doing exactly what I was doing before that started. They quickly learn that it's not worth having the hissy fit because it doesn't work. The 2 y/o tantrum doesn't work, they don't throw a tantrum at 5 or 12 or 18. Well, at least not the full blown on the ground kicking and screaming tantrum. The whining doesn't work, they don't whine as much. Foot stomping doesn't work, they don't do that as much.

I swear, from about 18 months to a little under 3 y/o, we have the typical hissy fits of toddlers - a lot because they are tired/hungry/bored and not verbal enough yet. After that, no problems until they hit about 12 - 14. Then teenaged years means they revert to acting like a toddler. So fine, I'll treat you like one. Which is why my cranky 14 y/o went to bed last night at 8:30 pm because she was CRANKY and whiny. I checked on her at 8:40 and she was out like a light.