I will never be nominated for Mother of the year Award thread

[ChickenAlgebra]

Yup, makes me a mean mom. I walk away from the toddler tantrum in the store also. Oh fine, you want to lay on the floor and scream? Go ahead, I'll keep shopping. Go to end of aisle, turn corner, wait. 30 seconds later EEEEPPPP, Momma not there! No need to throw a fit, doesn't get you anywhere. You don't get the treat/toy you thought you must have, you don't get the attention you wanted either.

The number of people who think that is HORRID is shocking. People will try to calm down screaming toddler. Which then stops the fit and they run for Mom. But how could I leave my baby in the aisle. Errm, just walk away? I can still see the dear, reach them fast enough. As such, they throw 2, MAYBE 3 fits in public and it's never worth it, so they don't do it at 10.

Which is why DSalmost18 and DD14 can process chickens and game over summer on their own. Why both know what they want to do work wise. DS is ready for college, DD is doing great in HS.

I'm not going to have a 30 y/o kid living at home playing video games and throwing tantrums to get what they want.

Have 8 already, twins due 9/12 and this is it for us.

For father of the year...

DH walked up behind DD14 the other week and did the Despicable Me line of "It's so SOFT and FLUFFY!" while he ruffled her hair. Did this in public. Which isn't THAT funny. What's hilarious is the guaranteed reaction from DD14 "OMG!!!!!!!!!!!! DahAAADDDDDD, WHY DID YOU DO THAT!!!! *insert screaming/whiny sounds similar to a siren*" Sorry, makes me crack up rolling.

 

[fosterchick]

I have so many moments were I was no longer the mother of the year. One that comes to mind happen 7 years ago when I had a issue with getting a child off to school. He felt that if he didn't get dressed then I couldn't make him go. So I calmly asked him to put his shoes on, which he did. Then I told him we were going for a ride. He got into the car and off we went. I then drove him to school. He spent the whole day at school in his pj's. When he got home he was mad and kept telling me that I was ruining his life. He never gave me an issue about getting dressed and going to school.

 

[ChickenAlgebra]

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But it's such an EFFECTIVE means to get them to learn to get ready in the morning. Why am I not supposed to do that????

 

[IttyBiddy]

I gave up on my "Mother of the Year Award" years ago!!

 

[WriterofWords]

Well if you ask Steven right now the list wouldn't fit on here! But the one that sticks out in my mind still makes me laugh! I got to be the World's Worst Mother and the World's Worst Aunt all at the same time...

We were driving down Dyer St. in El Paso and the boys, Steven and Ricky, started to whine they wanted hamburgers. So I pulled into the first drive thru I saw which was Silver Flame or something like that,, but not,, not I repeat,, a fancy building with a clown and arches. As I pulled in it started: "I don't want this! I want a Happy Meal, I want a Quarter Pounder with Cheese, I want, I want, I want, I WANT!!!!!" So I ordered two of the Kid's Meals at the first window, and they got even louder and more obnoxious. Steven was 6 and Ricky was 11,, and gullible as all get out! After I ordered the food and pulled up to the next window I told the boys to get out and check the tailgate on the truck it looked like it was coming open. As I took the food, they got out and went to the back of the truck, whereupon I put the truck in gear and took off! I could see them in my rear view mirror standing there with their mouths open in shock. It's a big parking lot, it used to be in a K-Mart parking lot so there wasn't much traffic that late at night, no chance of being run over. I pulled out like I was going to pull into the street and leave. They started running after me so I drove around the parking lot for a few minutes with them running and crying behind me. I have to admit I was laughing my head off, they weren't, they were screaming and crying. I pulled over and made them come around to the driver's side window and I asked them if they were going to get in, shut up, stop arguing and whining and eat their meals or were they going to walk home (20 miles, at night, in the dark). Of course I wouldn't have done that, but after leaving them there they weren't sure about that. They got in and ate their meals in silence and never said another word all the way home.

 

[debilorrah]

I remember one summer evening having a bunch of people over, and my dear 2 year old crawled under the table with his blankie and went to sleep. About 1 am, when everyone went home, we went inside and went to bed. About 3 am, there is my 2 year old pounding on the front door screaming at the top of his lungs.

 

[schellie69]

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Great one. Kids learn that tantrum don't work only if you don't allow them to.

 

[bt03]

DD9 says mine went out the window years ago

The one i can remember best is when we moved in with now DH. She was throwing a fit one day while we were going to the new house and asked why we had to move away from my mother.

My reply was "one day you will want to move away from me to. I don't expect you to understand right now but in time you will and you will know its what was best"
Her reply "Well I don't understand and I never will! Parents shouldn't make choices for their kids just because they know whats best"

2 years later she is such a daddy's girl it makes me sick

Dang parents and knowing what's best for their kids!

 

[feather and mountain man]

I have only had to deal with two public tantrums out of my kids their whole lives. So I guess I handled it pretty well.

The first one was my oldest son at age 5 started to throw a fit about it taking to long to pick up something a parts store and threw himself on the floor crying. (AT age 5) I simply looked down at him and said aren't you embarrassed doing that with all these people looking at you. He looked around and immediately stopped and never did it again.


The second was by far the worst ever my second son at age 4 threw a fit at a tire store cause he was told not to play on the display tires. I picked him up off of the floor and made him sit on my lap and let his brother and cousin have quarters to get candy and pop out of the machines. He didn't get any he just sat there pouting and told me I was mean. Oh well I'm mean. I have been called worse.

 

[llaaadyel]

As any parent learns there is a time in a small childs life when they repeat things (many things) that they hear their parents say. I am generally a very good person, good christian etc but well we all have our days. I lost the mother of the year award one afternoon when I was at the preschool with my DD having a mother child snack time event. My DD dropped the juice that she was bringing me and exclaimed "oh SHOOT" only she didn't say Shoot. Its a shame that the tables were so low as I would have loved to have crawled under the one I was sitting at.

Elke