I will never be nominated for Mother of the year Award thread

[Josie]

I and trouble keeping my 3 year old and 7 year old (they share a room) in bed. They would just keep coming out for hours for one last thing. All the traditional punishments did not seem to make a difference, and I was frustrated.
One night they were up way past what was okay, so I grabbed the water squirt bottle we use on the cat when she jumps up on the table. I told the kids if they got out of bed I would squirt them. I only had to squirt them once, and they went to sleep quietly after that.

 

[sammileah]

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I love that. Our old house I had to walk past their room everyday to do laundry. They didnt have a door lost it due to slamming. They now have the whole upstairs about 400 sqft u can't see the floor but I dont have to go up their my stress level is alot lower.

 

[ChickenAlgebra]

So far, only DD14 has been a door slammer, and lost her door (oh that drama was fun...). The others so far were just shocked that she acted like that and haven't gone that far yet.

But so long as I can not look at the mess, I can ignore it. I'm partially lazy, partially they need to learn to grow up and live independent of me.

I ignore the mess, as long as it's not likely to kill them. But if you have no clean clothes, too bad, so sad. You can't find the much needed whatever, too bad, so sad.

It is helped by the rule that food is NOT allowed in any room other than the kitchen and dining room. So at least the food doesn't migrate upstairs, get forgotten, encourage bugs, etc......

But I can make rules, nag, whine and beg for them to be followed - they still aren't likely to follow them all. If it's not a battle that's going to kill them if they don't follow my rules, it's not worth the fight. I save those for the big issues. You want to live in a pit and wear wrinkled clothes, be my guest. DD3 is dressing herself now, and she comes up with some VERY interesting choices. We keep seasonal clothes in her drawers, and other than that, I do not care. She wants to wear green striped tights, a pink floral skirt, a purple plaid shirt and a polka dot vest - I do not care.

 

[feather and mountain man]

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We have the same rule! The 3 boys all share a room in our house just simply so that only one room in the house is messy.

I have three rules for there room

The one mentioned above of course

I must be able to see the floor

and if you break it clean it up.

 

[WriterofWords]

I just heard a song that reminded me of another instance of bad parenting that I am still fighting today lol!! There is a line in this CW song that goes "Breaker Breaker one nine she's a big old flirt". Well my darling son and I were on the road and he's singing to it at the top of his lungs, he loves the song, he's 16 I think I the time. Anyway I almost drove off the road at 80mph because his version is "Breaker Breaker one nine she's a big old BIRD!" I thought he was kidding, he wasn't, he actually thought that's what it said. I had to pull over and laughed until I cried,, he didn't appreciate that or that now when the song starts I can't help but start giggling!

 

[cackydoodledoo]

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This reminds of a time we went to Walmart with our girls when they were about 3. My youngest twin decides she wants to dress herself. She has on capris, with her John Force shirt which three sizes too big and bright pink cowboy boots. She looked hilarious!!! We no more than step out of the van and some lady getting in her car next to us says, "Oh how cute she is!" Made sure she knew that she had dressed herself and I had no part in it!!! Even now at 6 my girls still don't care much about matching. The just want something fast so they can get outside to play!!!!

 

[lotzahenz]

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If this is what it takes to be a horrible mother then I am in!!! My DD6 (then 1 1/2) decides to throw a tantrum in the middle of the mall. Throws herself on the floor and all. I calmly walked away and stood about 10-15 feet from her and waited for her to finish. People were walking by and kinda flabbergasted! It took her less than a minute to figure out she wasn't getting the reaction she wanted from me and picked herself up and we went on about our day!! My kids, twin DD's6, remind me now and again that I am a mean mom!!! I say, "Yep cuz that's my job! It's not my job to be your friend. It's my job to be your mom and sometimes that means I gotta be mean!!!"

I really like this, you are a great mom! This is a nice place to share. I once lost my toddler at a baseball game. We were watching my son play, sitting on the bottom bleacher and she was playing in the dirt at my feet, about 18 months old. I look down and she is GONE! We searched and searched, me with my heart stopped. I was about to truly panic after about 10 minutes, as we could not locate her anywhere in the ballpark. I went over to the dugout, to tell my son we would be right back and there she was. She has squeezed between the fence and dugout wall and was sitting in there in the floor, playing. The little boys were not paying her a bit of attention. That was the longest 10 minutes of my life............but not the longest hour.........that is another daughter.

 

[ChickenAlgebra]

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This reminds of a time we went to Walmart with our girls when they were about 3. My youngest twin decides she wants to dress herself. She has on capris, with her John Force shirt which three sizes too big and bright pink cowboy boots. She looked hilarious!!! We no more than step out of the van and some lady getting in her car next to us says, "Oh how cute she is!" Made sure she knew that she had dressed herself and I had no part in it!!! Even now at 6 my girls still don't care much about matching. The just want something fast so they can get outside to play!!!!

Yeah, DD3 is now into wearing her favorite colors. So she gets some pretty interesting outfits going. Oh well, she at least is dressed, we didn't have a war over what she's going to wear. Good enough for me. Plus, come on, 3 y/o wearing an "interesting" outfit, people either think it's adorable or know that the kid is choosing their own clothes.

Much approval on the John Force shirt with pink cowboy boots, that's popular here also.

 

[chics in the sun]

At least it is your children who have dressed themselves funny. One of my mother-of-the-year moments came one Thursday afternoon when my Mom called after picking up my son. She does that for me once a week, bless her soul. She asked me, "Did D just insist on not taking off his pajama bottoms this morning or something?" I said, "What? No, he got dressed like usual". Mom: "Well, honey, why does he have his shorts on OVER his pajama bottoms?"

Because I am a terrible mother who is way too rushed trying to get my son to day care and myself to work by 7am....... sigh......

 

[cackydoodledoo]

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If this is what it takes to be a horrible mother then I am in!!! My DD6 (then 1 1/2) decides to throw a tantrum in the middle of the mall. Throws herself on the floor and all. I calmly walked away and stood about 10-15 feet from her and waited for her to finish. People were walking by and kinda flabbergasted! It took her less than a minute to figure out she wasn't getting the reaction she wanted from me and picked herself up and we went on about our day!! My kids, twin DD's6, remind me now and again that I am a mean mom!!! I say, "Yep cuz that's my job! It's not my job to be your friend. It's my job to be your mom and sometimes that means I gotta be mean!!!"

I really like this, you are a great mom! This is a nice place to share. I once lost my toddler at a baseball game. We were watching my son play, sitting on the bottom bleacher and she was playing in the dirt at my feet, about 18 months old. I look down and she is GONE! We searched and searched, me with my heart stopped. I was about to truly panic after about 10 minutes, as we could not locate her anywhere in the ballpark. I went over to the dugout, to tell my son we would be right back and there she was. She has squeezed between the fence and dugout wall and was sitting in there in the floor, playing. The little boys were not paying her a bit of attention. That was the longest 10 minutes of my life............but not the longest hour.........that is another daughter.

I mentioned something about my lost child story early on in this thread but didn't tell the whole story. So here goes:

My youngest twin is a daddy's girl and likes doing things with him. So when I decided I needed to go run some errands I took oldest twin and left youngest with her daddy. They were working on something out in the building. It's about a 20-30 minute drive to town for us and I no more than get in the first store and DH calls and says he can't find our DD. Acccckkkkk! What????????? He has looked everywhere! He went to all the neighbors as she might have wandered there. He has checked the house and backyard!! He has hollered and screamed her name with no answer. I am panicking by this time and snatch up my other DD and race home. Got almost home and he calls. He found her. He has a wood burning stove in his shop and the girls have lawn chairs sat in front to keep warm. She had curled herself into a tiny ball and was sound asleep oblivious to it all!!!! He had looked over in that area but didn't bother to look over the back of the chair!

I cannot even begin to describe the feeling of dread and despair that came over me when DH told me he couldn't find her!!! I hope to NEVER EVER experience it again!!! I actually think I might have lost a few years off my life that day!!!!