If you care to hear the rants/troubles of a young adult.

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A couple of thoughts from a moms point of view with kids your age:

1. You might be over 18 and your sister too, but as long as your parents names are on the mortgage/rental agreement, they pay the utilities, the food, insurance, medical, toiletries, hair cuts etc. Don't describe your household as including "Three adult women", I realize it might be technically true, but as long as your parents are providing for you, you are two adult children living in your parents home. It is really more than a matter of semantics, not recognizing your moms role can affect how you think you should relate to her.

2. I am guessing your moms reaction was based on how she was feeling about how you are helping in the household, right or wrong. She may feel that she has to ask you to do things several times or that you say I will do it and then vanish to your room. She may also just get tired of waiting for you to do those chores and do them herself. If you recognize that you have done that in the past, now is a good time to change that and start getting chores done first, rather than later.

And pearls of wisdom drop from her lips....couldn't have stated this better myself.​
 
Ever thought of driving truck? I was checking out the chat room for my dh's company and there is a 22yo girl who just finished her driver training and is doing her CDL. I think that is pretty neat!

When people tell you that you can't that is the exact time you should! Never let others tell you that you can not accomplish something,and then make it real by not even trying. Keep trying and moving forward unless you want to be stuck right where you are years to come.
 
I plucked my wife from the nest at 18 I have loved and supported her for 25 years. There are lots of options. Always.
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Okay I have a few pieces of advice. Some of it may sound harsh but I'm going to be realistic about this.

1. If you are in fact over the age of 18, you no longer need Mommy's permission to get your license. All you need is to go to the DMV and do the written test and get your date for the driving test. THEN you can worry about borrowing a car to pass the test. You don't need to fulfill your hours after 18 years old (at least in most states).

2. You also don't need Mommy's permission to go earn some income. You just have to get there. Ride a bike, as others have mentioned, or ride the bus. Or walk. I've gone for many 5 mile bike rides or walks. They won't kill you. They'll just tone you
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3. If you really are contributing to the household as you've said, keep a daily list and show your mother that you're no as useless as she may think.

4. What is it about defending your country that is against your beliefs exactly? I am very curious about this one. You do relaize the "Don't ask, don't tell" policy is no longer in effect, right? *If I'm wrong, Royd will let me know
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It sounds to me like you want, want, want but you just don't want the things that are being offered to you. Your mother said you're not very good at keeping house. Instead of sulking, do better. She won't let you drive. Why not? Are you that bad of a driver or just that irresponsible? She must have reasons for saying these things, so ask her.



You have been given a LOT of very good advice and you've shot down every single suggestion you've been given. Why is that?
 
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I'm a young adult, myself. I have worked since I was 13. Taken time off only for health issues. I still live at home and contribute without being asked to. I'm not allowed to pay rent so instead I do extra work around the house. I fix things. I clean the entire house (except their bedroom) every week, not including daily chores with cleaning floors and dishes and laundry. It was my idea to get chickens so I don't ask for any help with them and am grateful when they do help. When I'm asked to do something extra such as cook that night's meal or help Dad with building something, I do it. No questions asked. I live in THEIR house and will respect it and take care of it to the best of my abilities.
As an adult who still lives at home, certain things are expected of me and I do them because I live under their roof and therefore do things their way.
And when I get my own house, things will then be done my way.

Us adult "kids" should respect those we live with and respect their things. That includes, their home, their property, their car(s), their preferences.
Nuff said.
 
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The problem there is that I would NOT pass the test. I have not been taken out to practice anything besides a little driving on the highway (not expressway). No parking, no parallel parking, no 3 point turns... I wouldn't pass. If possible a driving course sounds like a good option though.


4. What is it about defending your country that is against your beliefs exactly? I am very curious about this one. You do relaize the "Don't ask, don't tell" policy is no longer in effect, right? *If I'm wrong, Royd will let me know
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Looong story. Here are some news articles to explain a bit of it.
http://www.naturalnews.com/034291_SB_1867_war_on_terror.html
http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/nationworld/2003586870_wiccan24.html


It sounds to me like you want, want, want but you just don't want the things that are being offered to you. Your mother said you're not very good at keeping house. Instead of sulking, do better. She won't let you drive. Why not? Are you that bad of a driver or just that irresponsible? She must have reasons for saying these things, so ask her.

She just doesn't have or want to take the time to let me drive. I am not a bad driver, nor am I irresponsible.


You have been given a LOT of very good advice and you've shot down every single suggestion you've been given. Why is that?

I have not shot down every one. I have just pointed out that 1) I cannot ride a bike over the mountain, more so emphasized when people don't even like to drive their vehicles over it too much, and doing so in winter would be suicide, and 2) the military has a lot of things that are against my personal beliefs, and 3) I do not feel that college is the way for me to go right now. Yes, I am keeping college in the back of my mind for the future. But no, I refuse to take out a loan so that as soon as I get out of college I have to pay off the debt, my plans, if I were to go to college, were to have a job so that I can pay for it without the debt load, and apply for scholarships if I feel the desire to attend college.

I have been reading everyone's posts, suggestions, opinions and ideas with an open mind. People are showing the bigger story, in more perspective, and from the parent's perspective as well. I've been thinking and praying about this, and appreciate you all taking the time to share these things with me. (Carol's Clucks and Squishy, your posts have been extremely helpful and encouraging.
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I had another thought for you:

If your parents have any CPA or Tax accountant friends, maybe your love of math could be used to assist them? If there is a used book store around (or online) look for an old out of date college text book, out of date ones just mean that the local college is not using it, not that accounting has changed.

Read it, super boring but still important. When you are done, download the 30 day trial of Quickbooks and spend that 30 days pretending to be the bookkeeper for a business, they usually have a sample file that you can use.

You might be able to pick up some work at home time in March and April helping the tax/cpa preparer sorting customers checkbooks, bank statements and invoices.
 
Lothiriel, there are jobs available out west here for someone like you. Stables will hire you, give you room and board, and some provide a vehicle. My wife worked at one for about 5 years that gave room and board and a small but agreeable wage. The work is not really that hard and is a way to get out of the parents house.
 

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