If you don't have children, then you have no right...
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I was the 2nd of 6 kids in my family and I have 3 kids of my own. I never hand out advice unless asked, but my oldest brother drives me crazy! He's not married and doesn't have kids, but feels since he's the oldest of 6 that he knows all about raising kids and loves to hand out advice to me and my sisters. Well I grew up in the same family he did and it's a whole lot different being in the game than watching from the sidelines. I think I'd be even more upset if it came from a perfect stranger - glad you kept your cool - I don't know if I would've.
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Hee hee--These are the people that you wish to have complete brats
I think you handled it well, OP. I complain often and loudly about my kids, but I love them to death and by talking about them get lots of great ideas on how to handle certain things from friends and family. (I also talk often and loudly about how wonderful they are, BTW, before everyone thinks I'm an evil mother).
I think what you said was completely in the range of normal. Now, if someone had been ranting about what an idiot their 5 year old was....
Hee hee--These are the people that you wish to have complete brats
I think you handled it well, OP. I complain often and loudly about my kids, but I love them to death and by talking about them get lots of great ideas on how to handle certain things from friends and family. (I also talk often and loudly about how wonderful they are, BTW, before everyone thinks I'm an evil mother).
I think what you said was completely in the range of normal. Now, if someone had been ranting about what an idiot their 5 year old was....
Rhett&SarahsMom :
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I get that as well. Add that I had a c sect and I guess I am not even "woman" enough to be a mom.
It's hard to ignore the ignorant sometimes. And there are A LOT of them out there.
I get this too and then in my case my son is adopted.
Chris
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I get that as well. Add that I had a c sect and I guess I am not even "woman" enough to be a mom.
It's hard to ignore the ignorant sometimes. And there are A LOT of them out there.
I get this too and then in my case my son is adopted.
Chris
I realize that these kind of situations can be extremely troubling and are not fun at all. I work in retail and run into people like that almost on a regular basis.
Something which helped me to deal with them was when a pharmacist friend of mine told me to remember that there were a lot of people out there who were on drugs and a lot more who needed to be. He knew because he sold them to many of them.
I had to laugh because it is so true. So, when I have to deal with someone like that, I just think to myself. "They must be on drugs" or "Their medications really need to be adjusted". Whether or not it is true I don't care, but somehow that thought helps me to deal with them.
Something which helped me to deal with them was when a pharmacist friend of mine told me to remember that there were a lot of people out there who were on drugs and a lot more who needed to be. He knew because he sold them to many of them.
I had to laugh because it is so true. So, when I have to deal with someone like that, I just think to myself. "They must be on drugs" or "Their medications really need to be adjusted". Whether or not it is true I don't care, but somehow that thought helps me to deal with them.
BTW, I think ANY person is equally unqualified to give parenting critiques. Now, if you had asked.... But for a complete stranger to offer his evaluation of your parenting skills? Yikes!
Yes, my husband and I were AWESOME at parenting before we had kids. Now we've learned to shut our mouths a bit more
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Is he still a difficult burper at 5 months? Shoot, lol. Our oldest was burping on his own at 3 months, I was kind of hoping our little guy would be easier at that point. Darn. Lol. I may check into that, but probably won't use it until he's older, if he's still difficult.
As for people without kids, yes, some understand, but, a lot of people sit on their high horse and act like they would be a perfect parent, when they literally have no idea what they're talking about.
My youngest was a really difficult burper too. I used some of the infant gas relief products. Worked well and when you and baby can get some rest life is much easier.
I have the problem with complete strangers asking, "Oh, is school out today?" My youngest is 4 1/2 and will start 4k this coming fall. She is in 5//6 clothes and many mistake her for a first grader. But, regardless, it's not their concern. If I had her out of school that would be between me and the school system not them. Or maybe as many do I homeschool. Or maybe she had a doctor appointment and we are waiting for the perscription to be filled.
Some people just like to stick their noses in where it doesn't belong.
Is he still a difficult burper at 5 months? Shoot, lol. Our oldest was burping on his own at 3 months, I was kind of hoping our little guy would be easier at that point. Darn. Lol. I may check into that, but probably won't use it until he's older, if he's still difficult.
As for people without kids, yes, some understand, but, a lot of people sit on their high horse and act like they would be a perfect parent, when they literally have no idea what they're talking about.
My youngest was a really difficult burper too. I used some of the infant gas relief products. Worked well and when you and baby can get some rest life is much easier.
I have the problem with complete strangers asking, "Oh, is school out today?" My youngest is 4 1/2 and will start 4k this coming fall. She is in 5//6 clothes and many mistake her for a first grader. But, regardless, it's not their concern. If I had her out of school that would be between me and the school system not them. Or maybe as many do I homeschool. Or maybe she had a doctor appointment and we are waiting for the perscription to be filled.
Some people just like to stick their noses in where it doesn't belong.
The majority of childless people are child rearing experts. Not.
I agree - those kind of people who have so much to say and no experience to back it up should be mandatory spayed and neutered. Stupid should not be reproduced.
I have a brother who used to be an expert. He's 47, unmarried, has no children and still lives at home. He used to be a total meany to my nieces and nephews when mom and dad were out of earshot or not in the room. One day he did that to my 7 year old son at my grandma's funeral but he made the mistake of not knowing where I was when it started coming down. I caught him right in the middle of his "expertise parenting" and came totally unglued.
Let's suffice to say that was the last time that ever happened - it was nearly his last day on earth - well, not that drastic but I'm not kidding when I say I stood up to him nose to nose and chest to chest. I would have taken him down but I couldn't get the wimp to throw the first punch.
Poor Grandma - it was her funeral - she was probably ready to start her spin cycle after that!
I agree - those kind of people who have so much to say and no experience to back it up should be mandatory spayed and neutered. Stupid should not be reproduced.
I have a brother who used to be an expert. He's 47, unmarried, has no children and still lives at home. He used to be a total meany to my nieces and nephews when mom and dad were out of earshot or not in the room. One day he did that to my 7 year old son at my grandma's funeral but he made the mistake of not knowing where I was when it started coming down. I caught him right in the middle of his "expertise parenting" and came totally unglued.
Let's suffice to say that was the last time that ever happened - it was nearly his last day on earth - well, not that drastic but I'm not kidding when I say I stood up to him nose to nose and chest to chest. I would have taken him down but I couldn't get the wimp to throw the first punch.
Poor Grandma - it was her funeral - she was probably ready to start her spin cycle after that!
Yikes!
Our non-parent brothers and sisters think the kids in the family are brats. I CANNOT WAIT for them to have their own! Seriously, based on my own biased opinion and what lots of other people say about the kids, we have got some really good, pretty normal kids. So, I'm thinking we've got some sibs in for a very rude awakening once they have their own
Muaaahaaaahaaaa!
Our non-parent brothers and sisters think the kids in the family are brats. I CANNOT WAIT for them to have their own! Seriously, based on my own biased opinion and what lots of other people say about the kids, we have got some really good, pretty normal kids. So, I'm thinking we've got some sibs in for a very rude awakening once they have their own
Muaaahaaaahaaaa!
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Yeah, I worked in an elementary school until my first son got about 2yrs old.
now I'm know why they get out sooner than high school teachers. They need relief!
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