If you don't have children, then you have no right...

Discussion in 'Family Life - Stories, Pictures & Updates' started by Bettacreek, Apr 20, 2009.

  1. Bettacreek

    Bettacreek Crowing

    Jan 7, 2009
    Central Pennsyltucky
    Alright, if you don't have kids, then you really have no room to insult people's parenting skills. Granted, if you see some creep swearing at their kids, then, yes, but, if it's something minor, then just keep it to yourself.

    I was talking about our youngest son. He's a total pain to burp, plain and simple. We bought those liner bottles that collapse to keep air to a minimum, but, he still gets huge gas bubbles, and sometimes you have to burp him every 1/2 ounce, and it often takes an hour to burp him. I've gone from one feeding until the next just holding, rocking and rubbing his belly to try to work the burps out. Now, I didn't say all of this, I just made one statement: "he's a pain to burp" and some moron went off on a tangent. Just a random guy that I've never seen, never talked to, nothing. He was like "oh, you're a reeaaall great mother, talking about your son like that" I was like, "umm, excuse me?" then he goes on and on about how I'm a bad mother and I don't deserve the blessing of children, and how I don't have the patience to be a mother. I was like, "excuse me, how many children do you have?" his response, "none, but I know that you're one of those mothers that strangle and drown their babies". OMG, I had to walk away, you can't even understand how badly I just wanted to smack some fool for insinuating that I would ever hurt one of my children. It's like, when YOU sit up for four hours straight when you're tired, to hold and comfort a baby with a belly ache that you can't burp, THEN you can tell me all about patience. I mean, EVERYONE who watches him, or watches me feed him says the same thing, "wow, he's really hard to burp!" There have even been times that we played "pass the baby" because everyone was trying to burp him, without success, lol. Yes, it's frustrating, but if anyone tells you that babies/children aren't, then they've either never had a child, or they're lying. BUT, getting frustrated doesn't mean that you're some psycho who will actually get mad or hurt your child. Sleepless nights and frustration are just a fact of life, just as love, happiness and pride are. But, the guy actually said "you shouldn't ever say anything negative about your own children". Umm, first of all, I wasn't really saying anything negative, just saying that he's a pain to burp, I wasn't saying it in any awful tone or anything, just having casual conversation. My only assumption is that maybe he had a bad mother or something, but who knows, he could just be one of those folks that thinks he knows everything and sits on his high horse criticizing everyone else. /rant

  2. CoopCrazy

    CoopCrazy Brooder Boss

    Mar 3, 2009
    [​IMG] [​IMG] [​IMG] You handled that sooooo much better then I would've.... [​IMG] [​IMG] People like that get my goat..... I adopted two boys a few years back because there mother was neglecting them, I became a daddy overnight and you would'nt beleive some of the comments made to me when correcting my very ill behaved children...... He is very lucky you did'nt just hall off and [​IMG]
  3. Scoop

    Scoop Songster

    Jan 16, 2009
    Central PA
    Dang! That blithering idiot should go to his doctor and get sterilized ASAP! [​IMG]
  4. Pepperwolfe

    Pepperwolfe In the Brooder

    Mar 11, 2009
    Groveland FL
    Here's my problem.. since I have only one I guess I'm not Mom enough for those who have more. Give me a break. and I've had people make comments to me about it. "Only one?"
    We rented out my parents house to this young family where the mom is 13 years younger than me and she kept trying to give me advice on my 10 year old. And at times made comments about her.
    To make a long story short. She walked out on her husband and three very small kids. She neglected them and who knows what all else. She doesn't have the kids and even her own mom doesn;t what her near the kids.
    That man probably shouldn't have contact with anyone. He doesn't know what he's talking about. He's never heard the old saying "walk a mile in my shoes..."

  5. Hobbley_Farm

    Hobbley_Farm Songster

    Sep 9, 2008
    Pilot Mountain, NC
    The strange guy in your story/experience was just that... a strange man. He could have sooo much baggage from past life that it set him off. He had NO right to talk to you like that, but he probably didn't realise that at the time. Probably speaks him mind in a disrespectful way all the time. Just K-I-S-S...He's an idiot and forget about it. Unfortunately there are crazy people all around us all the time to varying degrees. You have a baby who finds it difficult to burp and that guy is a donkey's rear end. Those are the facts. Plain and simple. When I have been put in situations like that (though never THAT blatant yet) I just laugh [​IMG] and walk away. Can't argue with stupid...or as that one guy says "can't fix stupid"
  6. Bettacreek

    Bettacreek Crowing

    Jan 7, 2009
    Central Pennsyltucky
    Lol. Yeah, two kids can be more frustrating, but, sometimes just one kid is frustrating, especially if you get the luck of the draw and get a child that needs a LOT of attention. Some are like that, and people don't get it. When I said that I wanted another child, I was insulted for it. People were saying "oh, you don't know what it's like to have two children" (umm, duh...) and "your first one has you spoiled, you think that since he's such a good kid that the next one will be too". Umm, again, if I thought I was going to have two identical children, then, well, that's just stupid, lol. I just hate how people are so judgemental, but it's even worse when they really have absolutely no idea what they're talking about. Even if you DO have children, that doesn't mean that you know how someone else's child is, or how you would react in a different situation with a different child. Honestly, I try to keep my nose out of other people's business, especially with children, but, there was one time that I could have smacked some mother. She had a baby, *maybe* 6-9 months, and it (not sure of gender, it was only wearing a diaper, so no clues on gender) was trying to stand up in the seat. The mother was screaming and cussing... "I'm going to beat your darn a if you don't sit the eff down". And, no, she wasn't saying "eff" or "a", she was actually saying it. I felt terrible for that baby.
  7. Mandalina

    Mandalina Songster

    Apr 1, 2009
    If i had been there i would have junk punched him for you.That is just rude and down right mean.You are in no way a bad mom!

  8. klf73

    klf73 Mad Scientist

    Jun 1, 2008
    I agree, people without kids have no room to speak [​IMG]
  9. Rhett&SarahsMom

    Rhett&SarahsMom Songster

    May 8, 2008
    Quote:I get that as well. Add that I had a c sect and I guess I am not even "woman" enough to be a mom. [​IMG]

    It's hard to ignore the ignorant sometimes. And there are A LOT of them out there.

  10. Chicks_N_Horses

    Chicks_N_Horses Songster

    Mar 30, 2009
    South Alabama
    I have a 10 yr. old girl, 4 yr. old girl, and a non-stop, on the go, never for a minute will stop 2 yr. old son.

    I haven't ever had that happen but have had people give me funny looks when I scold my children in public. But I don't care if they think I am a bad mom (I so know better) I would rather have my child learn some respect rather than care if folks think I am a bad mom.

    I think people with children really understand what you are saying [​IMG]

BackYard Chickens is proudly sponsored by