I'm so old I Remember when:

It's hard to keep our kids safe, Moony, boys and girls both. At a certain age they stop listening and think they know everything and just go off and do what they darn well please anyway. At that point about all we can do as parents is pray for them and hope they survive it.
When my kids were still aged in the single digits they asked me why I referred to teensgers as being in their stupid years. I explained that that's when they start thinking they know everything and their parents suddenly don't know anything. To demonstrate my point, we sat in the car parked at the back of the local high school lot at let-out time and watched all the antics of high schoolers with their few minutes of unsupervised freedom. Like I said, mine were preadolescent so they still had some sense about them and I didn't even need to explain further.
 
My mom comes from a culture where the girls didn't move out until they married...so I think I know what you mean. Even after I moved several states away, I'm expected to call her and let her know I arrived safely if I'm going on a trip. She wants nightly calls to reassure her I'm still alive and safe when I'm traveling, and well into my 50's she'd still get upset when I'd take my girls camping by myself. She'd tell me because I'm small and look younger than I am someone might snatch me and I'm not safe 😂. I try my best to give her what she needs to feel connected and loved...lots of phone calls and annual visits etc. But at the same time I trust myself and never let her fears stop me from living. Road trips, camping trips with my kids and no hubby along etc. I never poo-poo her worries...I just tell her how I keep safe, how much fun we had etc. You'll find your way to independence if you just keep reaching for it, and you're freedom doesn't have to be a guilty thing or harm your relationship with your parents. You'll get there ♥️
Thank you for this :love
 
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