Interstate Child Support Questions

[Chicken Chaperone]

Let me just start with that...

Does anybody out in BYC Land have experience with out of state child support application/payment processes? I'm a wee bit hesitant to air
my dirty laundry for all to see right here so I'll try and keep this brief but.. I am a full custodial parent trying to get support from a parent who lives out of state.

I've been going through the state(s)'s systems, filing the paperwork, making the calls, doing the legwork and waiting and waiting and after 6.5 months and getting nothing
I'm starting to wonder if hiring a lawyer would be the better option because neither the state I'm in nor the other one are making any kind of forward motion that I can detect
besides saying, "yes, we got your paperwork".

But lawyers are expensive (and quite frankly, scare me- no offense...but..) and would any attorney even be willing to deal with an out of state case like this?
If anyone has info or experience they'd be willing to share maybe a PM might be a good choice for privacy's sake or even a hug here would be something I'd appreciate so much!

I feel like I'm reaching the end of my tether

thanks, everybody!

 

[jbowyer01]

(((HUG))) I wish I could help.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

Some questions. Is the other parent employed? Do you have his social security number? Do you have an order of child support from a court?

If you have a court order for child support, the IRS will "hijack" any refund due to that parent and send it to you. However, you do need to have the paperwork filed that shows he/she is in arrears on paying child support. Also check to make sure he is using his own social security number and not your child's. That was a trick my niece's ex used. And about the only child support she has ever gotten.

Make an appointment with the people that handle child support in your state and don't just ask "have you received my paperwork?" but ask "when can I expect to begin receiving child support" and "what, if anything, can I do to hurry this process." Mention any financial concerns--if you are on state welfare, they may be willing to proceed more rapidly. If you know where the other parent lives, you can file in that state to have his/her wages garnished. Call the local bar association and ask for referral to family law attorneys who specialize in child support. Some attorneys have a small or no charge for an initial consultation.

 

[saddina]

When you next call tell them you want to garnish his wages. You'll need a judge to order it, but what then happens is any place he works, the accounting dept will get a letter saying they need to deduct XXX from each paycheck and send it to the state, which sends it to you.

 

[clarkscluckies]

I sent you a PM and you may PM me back with any other questions.

 

[MagsC]

My ex husband has his wages garnished for child support for our daughter. Before that, it was rare I saw any child support. Its a frustrating process.