Introducing me, Beccy B!

Discussion in 'New Member Introductions' started by Beccy B, Jan 8, 2018.

  1. Beccy B

    Beccy B In the Brooder

    Jan 8, 2018
    Hmm, well this feels a little awkward, I guess hello should be my starting point, I hope you and you feathered friends are all well and managed to avoid the dinner table over Christmas! I’m just going to tell you all the big stuff first so those of you that want to judge, can get it out of the way so that we can be friends! Here goes...
    I am married to a guy who is much older than I am his 78 years to my 40, we married in 2012. I have 2 girls from my previous husband,(who was also 20 Years my senior) Who left me for an older, blonder woman! Life has not been easy for me, husband 1 left just before my second child was born with no warning. After my section,I brought my two girls up for their first 5 years alone despite having Fibromyalgia,borderline personality disorder, cyclothymia and badly controlled Epilepsy; Gray, my current husband is the only dad my girls (10&14) have ever known. I have no family despite growing up in a large family.My sister and I were both adopted from different families but always grew up as sisters.I had a hard time growing up needing to’find myself ‘ more than most. My wonderful mum died when I was 25, although I’d left home at 16,I hadn’t really cut the apron strings, and lost my Dad in 2011, followed my my grandma, grandma and grandad and 2 uncles, on Christmas Day my sister has told me not to contact her or my niece and nephews again due to something stupid our kids did. The rest of my family, aunts, uncles and cousins disowned me after burying dad’s ashes and won’t tell me why!!
    I take many pills each day and don’t leave my house often. Consequently, I have pets which I love. 2 Cavaliers,5 cats, 2 axolotls and my little lovely Gilly, my five month old bearded dragon! So Aaaaany way, that’s mostly me warts and all, so here’s the good bit, Hubby has finally given in to me having ducks, hence my reason for joining and hopefully make some friends! Also wanted to ask...
    I’ve seen a duck house that looks very practical. The ducks I want are 2 Aylesbury females, what’s the average size as I need to find out it they’ll fit through the door! Also where’s the best place to get Aylesbury duck chicks in stoke or Staffs? Thanks guys
  2. Farmer Connie

    Farmer Connie TRICK OR TREAT?

    Feb 28, 2017
    Florida Peninsula
    My Coop
  3. Pork Pie

    Pork Pie Flockwit

    Jan 30, 2015
    Africa - near the equator
  4. 007Sean

    007Sean Enabler

    Oct 25, 2015
    South Central Texas
    Howdy:welcome:frow Happy:ya to have you join the family. Enjoy your time here at BYC! :)
  5. EggSighted4Life

    EggSighted4Life Free Ranging

    Good morning Beccy, and welcome to BYC! :frow

    Wow, you really did lay it all out there. :th

    So sorry for the challenges you faced. Mental illness AND family struggles are something a lot of us face. :hugs

    I have found myself left with only my chosen family and not my birth family, which of course bugs worse at the holidays. :hit

    But I'm SOOO blessed by the family and FEW friends I do have! :celebrate

    I personally would choose chickens over ducks after having both. But I know we all are different. Sorry I don't have the answer to your size thing.

    But at least wanted to welcome you to a very helpful and caring community that offers both personal and animal support. The so many knowledgeable members have changed both my life and that of any fowl or even other species that I might keep in the future, forever. I am a much better/happier keeper now. :highfive:

    Hardest thing about your hubby being older is that aging hurts! :barnie Of course for some reason not all genetics are the same and hopefully he chose the right parents so he could age well. In my 40's I'm already dismayed to feel the decline. No STUPID judgement here, just wish the best for you all! :)
  6. MissNutmeg

    MissNutmeg Free Ranging

    Jan 18, 2017
    Middle Earth
    My Coop
    Hi and welcome to BYC! So glad you could join us!!! :ya

    ~Meg :D
  7. Allie Grace Sanders

    Allie Grace Sanders Songster

    Oct 12, 2017
  8. Fields Mountain Farm

    Fields Mountain Farm Enabler

    Jun 6, 2017
    Dunlap TN
    Welcome to the family Becky....
    You have warts? :eek:
    Just kidding, we all have our warts around here and as Pork Pie said, all that matters is our common ground, our feathered friends. :hugs
    Poke around some threads and get to know the folks here. They are a wonderful bunch of peeps..:love
  9. TwoCrows

    TwoCrows Bird is the Word

    Mar 21, 2011
    New Mexico, USA
    My Coop
    Hello Beccy and welcome to BYC! :frow

    I am so sorry about all the trials and tribulations you have had in life. :hugs Life sure can be tough. Just try not to dwell on the past and move forward. :hugs:)

    Definitely stop by our Ducks forum to get answers for your questions.

    Great to have you aboard and welcome to our roost! :)
  10. sourland

    sourland Broody Magician

    May 3, 2009
    New Jersey
    Good morning, Beccy, welcome to BYC. You've come to the right place.

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