I have several ways of coping. One of them is to try not to get attached. There is always the one or two, however, that make pets (or is that pests?) of themselves by being tame and friendly. I don't name them, exactly. My current big red cockerel is called Big Red, just because of his size and color. DH knows immediately who I'm talking about. The little BO that comes running every time I'm in sight is Goldie, for the same reason. The thing is, it seems like naming them is a death sentence for them. I also know the realities of free ranging. It happens - a predator comes and they die. It bothers me, but I can't let myself be nervous about free ranging, or I'd be a wreck. I just have to accept my losses and move on.

Mine that actually have names are for similar reason.. I had a Sunny D once, big BO mix who was the color of Sunny Delight orange drink...

Well put!I am loving this respect full thread! My hands are all beloved pets… But I have a cousin who used to raise them for her family of 10 to eat. One time when I mentioned I keep chickens and that we had that in common, she meantioned chickens are mean. I told her that mine are pets, and she replied that she didn’t have that luxury. Honestly, I felt a little embarrassed And realized I was being insensitive. I have great respect for people who grow their own birds for eggs and meat.
Also @Shadrach, you had me on the edge of my seat reading that! You are a great writer!

Yes, it can be difficult at best to understand each others difference in culture, word usage and humor. We all come from so many different backgrounds. And its a good thing we have good moderators to help keep us all "in line". I dont envy their jobs at most times but am greatful for the job they do.. I imagine it can be dauntig at times .lolI agree. I don’t know how BYC pick their moderators but I think they do an amazingly good job.
It’s very easy to forget that BYC has chosen to cater for a very wide range of ages and nationalities.
Something I might write for a British audience, especially humour, and mine gets pretty dark at times, can be totally misconstrued by a reader with a different cultural background.
I think some people forget that BYC isn’t ‘their’ site. It’s a problem inherent in tolerant moderation.
I’ve had posts moderated; I don’t argue. There are some rules they have to adhere to for legal reasons and there are others that are there to protect the sensibilities of other posters.
There is a post somewhere where the staff claim they have the best moderators on the web. When I first read it I was dubious to say the least. Having been here a few weeks and having had an awful lot to say for myself, I think they may be right.
But its so good for us all to learn each others ways and to gain understanding and respect for each others varied lives and views.
I had a hard time when I first came to byc, grasping tone in text or misunderstanding terms and I was constantly worried Id offend or hurt someone's feelings, still struggle with it from time to time. I have learned tho, and continue to do so. But it breaks my heart when others hurt and more so if I cause it, tho unintentionally. I am so impressed with the way this thread is going!
This is how it should be. To be able to express individual views without fear of being ridiculed.
I hope the positive atmosphere continues..

X2I was surprised to read you eat chicken. I don’t eat bought chicken but I’ll eat a chicken that lived here. Some people who know how much time I spend with the chickens here are stunned when I tell them I not only eat them, I’ll kill them as well. It’s a very difficult standpoint to explain to people.
What an amazing, fearless hen!! I am beyond impressed So glad you could do something to help her survive! Like others have said, I think it is a fine balance between intervening and knowing when the "right" call is ending an animals suffering. I too have suffered losses in my flock. Fortunately I never had to make a decision as the predator killed the hens each time. I do know I'd do what I could, within reason, to help one of my flock survive. But there are so many considerations that go into a decision like that, not only survivability but, as others said, cost. Have I sat out at night with a flashlight and air rifle after hearing my flock alert? Absolutely. But I also know I can't protect them 24/7 from a determined predator, especially one that has all the time in the world to wait and watch for the opportunity to get a meal.
What do I do when I lose a hen? The same as when I lose any other animal. I grieve, I pay respect to it, thank it for the happiness and nourishment (mind and body) it has provided, and give it a proper burial. And I remember it
I think you are doing wonderful work by studying and caring for "your" flock. And I'm sure they appreciate all the effort you put into it.


Hope i didnt ramble on too much.
