Is it Nap time yet?

[ranchhand]

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See? Being fussed at is working!

All you needed was some of us harassing you and you found that energy you needed. Now you get

Glad you are feeling better, having a clean house really does cheer you up, and DH is out working, that's great! The FIL problem will hopefully become a non-issue.

I am plowing through laundry today, cooking for at least the next week, and it feels good! Now I will have more time for my online sales stuff.

Good luck on Thursday. Make a list now, so the emotions don't creep in and make it end badly.

 

[chickeypoo]

I don't think id talk to FIL during thanksgiving. the day after maybe. but not while lunch or supper is being made or served. that might make him feel threatened. If you are close enough for him to come over then do it some other time. That way it's more casual and not a holiday.

i didn't feel like doing anything and i have been doing a few dishes here and there during the week but they still piled waaay up more than i had wished. so today i tackled it and did it all. i have also done two loads of laundry. now just to put it all away lol. we also may have to start packing thursday(maybe getting a new house yay) anyway, i feel for the tired part but sometimes you do just need to start and then you get motivated more.

Sue

 

[ranchhand]

Hmmm..., Sue's right. Holidays are a terrible time to discuss issues.

I have a rather difficult question for you, and please understand that I am not attacking you. I want to try to help clarify things for YOU, because you need help right now and are facing some pretty difficult times.

You just said: "It's raining and I have been working my butt off cleaning the house until it shines all week "

And just yesterday your FIL was "yelling" at you because your house wasn't clean. https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=269429

So I am a bit confused?

 

[McCord6]

He was complaining over a very small thing. He expects everything to be PERFECTLY spotless. Mail and school papers on the table from the night before hubby's socks and shoes and shirt just from the night before was nothing to complain about. It was an easy pick up and he made a huge deal over it. Many knew I been "Broody" or "Nesting" this week that my house was overly spotless and many were telling me to SIT DOWN! LOL! I don't fret about a small mess but he did. Maybe I should tell him as it is...his chihuahuas poop and pee in the HOUSE...which is worse?

Im not going to go CRAZY CLEANING everytime he comes over and Im going to make sure he knows that.

 

[McCord6]

Wait a minute. This thread has gone WAY off topic. Lets get back to something fun, like I really planned this thread to be!

Tell me about your LAZY DAY!!!!!!!!

 

[Boyd]

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My lazy day consisted of cooking turkey and reading up on the difficult times you're going through, during the past 5 or 6 threads. I'm pretty relaxed though, I am fed and ready for a turkey coma

 

[ranchhand]

Try my Mom's trick then, and keep the LR/DR clean- and keep him out of the rest of the house. Oh, and Mom always made sure the "company" bathroom was clean too. She never let anyone see the kitchen, bedrooms or den!

Tell hubby to get undressed in the bedroom- he can surely handle that. And get after him about the outside- if he is not actively working than he needs to get that done. You need the backup, and as your life partner he needs to cowboy up and pitch in, even more so since it's his father and his father's stuff cluttering the yard. But be nice about it- use honey, not vinegar.

 

[ranchhand]

Sorry Venieca, but when you post daily about your dramas, you are going to see that people naturally tie them all together. What I see is someone not taking control of her life- and I really do want to encourage you to do just that.

Sort of like the "Tough Love" programs. You and you alone are responsible for you life- and those of your children. DH needs to get more involved, but you can't depend on him to do it. He has to want to do it, too.

 

[Katy]

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I was not raised to have a "lazy day" nor do I feel ok doing that.

I might have a day where I don't do as much work as normal....like yesterday, I took a couple of hours and went to a poultry show, but I guess it's just not in me to sit around and do nothing. We're self-employed farmers and if we don't keep after the farm work no one else is going to do it for us. Lazy days don't get my bills paid.

 

[twentynine]

I don't know what to make of this thread or for what it's worth MC6.

Been cleaning the house all week but by her own descrption it was a wreck yesterday.

More inconsistantsies in her post than you can shake a stick at. Bee kin of wondering if her post--this post is not just to incite some sort of reaction.
Why did she request the first post to be closed.

And I just gotta ask if you had your. Why not something else it takes twice? Never mind I think I need to stay away from the off topic areas of this forum.