It DOES seem like you are worrying about DH becoming too much like your father .......... it also sounds like you just plain aren't really working with your husband, so much as against him. There won't be any improvement until you decide to help him and yourself. FORGET the comparisons to your parents marriage and the crush. The crushed upon guy is probably no better than your hard working father of 3 children.
I really think you need to look in the mirror and ask some questions.
Things like:
Why do I resent my husband?
Why can't I respect him?
How can I get our marriage back on track?
Why do I feel like because I lost weight at the gym, he has to do the same?
Why does my husband seem depressed?
Why do I keep buying ice cream for him to eat when I want him to lose weight?
Then go ask him the same questions. Encourage him to talk about HIS troubles. He probably isn't any happier than you are.
There are a million other questions. But your posts do tend to be all about you. That's not necessarily a bad thing, but I always like to hear both sides of the situation. Right now, you seem to be very righteous and he sounds awful. I suspect there is a middle ground somewhere.
I really think you need to look in the mirror and ask some questions.
Things like:
Why do I resent my husband?
Why can't I respect him?
How can I get our marriage back on track?
Why do I feel like because I lost weight at the gym, he has to do the same?
Why does my husband seem depressed?
Why do I keep buying ice cream for him to eat when I want him to lose weight?
Then go ask him the same questions. Encourage him to talk about HIS troubles. He probably isn't any happier than you are.
There are a million other questions. But your posts do tend to be all about you. That's not necessarily a bad thing, but I always like to hear both sides of the situation. Right now, you seem to be very righteous and he sounds awful. I suspect there is a middle ground somewhere.
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