Is it Wrong to have a "Crush" on Someone if You Are Married?

[bald k9]

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dont you think you have already acted on this ,by asking all the people on here? I hope your husband finds out and leave you, you are not worthy of his love

Sheesh... she's asking for advice. That seems a bit uncalled for...

Advice should come from a marriage counselor not from people you havent met and never will, I dont mean to sound harsh, but If somebody played with my heart like that ,they would be out on the street real fast kids or not!

 

[littlefarm_bighappy]

That's a little harsh, K9, and it;s that kind of attitude that kills relationships and trust.

No one wants to live by the harsh rules that if someone needs something, and is having TOTALLY NORMAL FEELINGS, that he/she will be kicked to the curb. That kills communication and openess, and how will that help?

This is normal and has happened forever. Heck, in the bible it was sanctioned that men got to have as many pretty young things caught his eye or that he could pay a dowry for. If my hubby was having a crush i;d want to know.

She's made it clear hubby isn't the most approachable person, and is frustrated and needs to talk. So she found a safe forum, here, because who knows how many people she has that would hold her confidence?

So hon, yes, he needs to hear about your sadness and loneliness. Cheating isn't worth it. If he doesn;t care and is cold, end it. It's easy to fantasize about this other dude, but you don't know if he is an abuser, child molestor, or thief. It's not worth exposing your kids to this hurt if the pain is at home.

Better to fight the devil you know than the devil you don't.

 

[Chickie Mamma]

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Sheesh... she's asking for advice. That seems a bit uncalled for...

Advice should come from a marriage counselor not from people you havent met and never will, I dont mean to sound harsh, but If somebody played with my heart like that ,they would be out on the street real fast kids or not!

Gee, let me look up all the marriage counselors that aren't strangers. I am glad you personally know so many.
I bet you are alone

I don't see a significant other in your signature line, or have any kids.. If you are not married with kids, keep,your nose out of this, you have no experience that may help.
Newbies on here with a selfish attitude like that, shouldn't be here.
I have many friends here, and I like to get advice from friends too.

 

[littlefarm_bighappy]

Yeah, call a divorce lawyer and rip the parents away from a bunch of kids because of a MESSAGE BOARD POST. Control freak much?

 

[Cindiloohoo]

Looks like this thread is headed into the toilet....

You guys better settle down in here

We can hear ya'll all the way across the hall in Random Ramblings!!

 

[bald k9]

so I guess all the nay sayers dont believe in honesty, has chickie mamma talked to her hubby about her "feelings",! thats honesty for ya!

 

[Chickie Mamma]

Definately headed to the toilet..
Thanks to all my "friends" with helpful advice.
You know who you are and thanks for sharing personal experiences to help with my present situation.

 

[DuckLady]

Closed at OP's request

This is an example of why we discourage too much personal info to be posted.