Is There Anybody Else Here With Aspberger's Syndrome?

[annaraven]

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That sounds exactly like high functioning autism/aspergers, especially the part about being very social with adults and having a hard time interacting appropriately with his peers.

Good luck getting through the catch 22 of school and doctor.

 

[annaraven]

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LOL. Monday is purple, Tuesday is red, Wednesday is orange, Thursday is blue, Friday is green, Satyrday is black, and Sunday is yellow. Doesn't everyone do that?

And yeah, I tend to tap each finger on my thumb in order over and over. And trail my fingers along fences and walls for the texture.

 

[justbugged]

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We have taken him to the doctor but the doctor wants the school to complete their evaluation so he can use the test results from them instead of redoing it all. The school suggested we wait until we observe him more and collect more data...they said that sometimes doctors will be swayed by other findings and they want to make sure they are thorough before releasing THEIR findings. I think for a school they're being very cautious and are genuinely concerned. We are a small community with a lot of resources. They can really devote a lot of time and resources to him. I know that ultimately we have to have a doctors diagnosis for it to be an official diagnosis.

He shows some tendencies of high functioning autism, except that he is VERY social...but only with adults. He has a hard time interacting appropriately with his peers. I think he feels comfortable with adults because they are kind and adjust to accommodate him. It's what adults do naturally. Kids haven't acquired the skill yet so when another kid doesn't want to play by the official rules or he wants to quack like a duck when the rest of the class is wanting to play ball then they tend to ignore or shun him. I'm proud of him for being able to hold it together at school, but it's only going to get harder. I want an official diagnosis by the end of this school year.

Your son sounds so much like mine as he was growing up. I pulled him out of public school at the end of the year. We ended up homeschooling through high school. It was quite clear that my son was not functioning well with his peers. He started to work at 14 with a friend of the family. Our friend was very impressed at how DS could work without constant supervision. At 16 he started Community College, and got a summer job with the counties road operations. He was hire on full time before he turned 19 years old. He is still the youngest guy on the teem, But if you saw him working you would never know that he is so young. He never did like other children. I hope things go well with your son. I don't regret following a different path.

 

[justbugged]

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LOL. Monday is purple, Tuesday is red, Wednesday is orange, Thursday is blue, Friday is green, Satyrday is black, and Sunday is yellow. Doesn't everyone do that?

And yeah, I tend to tap each finger on my thumb in order over and over. And trail my fingers along fences and walls for the texture.

I used to know all the colors for the week, and the colors of numbers and letters. All I can remember for sure now is that 8 is black. I wish that I had been able to remember more. Some times it really bothers me about the thing like this that were stomped on and forbidden to think about.

 

[geebs]

Firetigris: You are normal on this thread.

I am not sure about the black number 8 thing but I get the color coding the colors of the week... That helps us remember what day it is... (am I right?)

Justbugged: You need to share more. I don't understand what you wrote. What are the "forbidden things"? Please elaborate so I may understand. THANKS.

 

[Tartannik]

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LOL. Monday is purple, Tuesday is red, Wednesday is orange, Thursday is blue, Friday is green, Satyrday is black, and Sunday is yellow. Doesn't everyone do that?

And yeah, I tend to tap each finger on my thumb in order over and over. And trail my fingers along fences and walls for the texture.

I used to know all the colors for the week, and the colors of numbers and letters. All I can remember for sure now is that 8 is black. I wish that I had been able to remember more. Some times it really bothers me about the thing like this that were stomped on and forbidden to think about.

My Monday is white, Tuesday burgandy, Wednesday yellow, Thursday Orange, Friday Blue, Saturday brown and Sunday black!!

 

[justbugged]

I was not allowed to talk about days and numbers having color when I was growing up. I had to conform to the way things were done by mother,and father. They label me behind my back but never to my face. I was not allowed to think about things that they didn't approve of. They still don't approve and, I don't think that I care any more

 

[Knock Kneed Hen]

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I'm sorry you don't have the support of your parents. I don't understand why they think that it's something they can approve or disapprove of...it's not like smoking, something you can just quit! It's something that requires a lot of understanding from family. I can't tell you how relieved I am to have somewhere to find information, that my child really isn't that different....look how many of you are on this thread!! LOL We're all unique, just in different ways. But believe me when I say you don't have to be an aspie to have parents that don't get you.

 

[sfw2]

I've been following this thread with interest, not because any of my family has been diagnosed with Asperger's, but because I think a lot of us fall somewhere on the spectrum, and also because it's important for all of us to learn as much as we can about what makes others behave the way they do.

I few years back, my parents were sorting through old papers, and came across my early report cards, which they gave to me. I was somewhat taken aback by the comments from some of my early teachers, voicing their concerns for me, my "shyness", and how I had a hard time socializing with my peers. I was the child with my nose stuck in a book. During summer vacations, I'd go to the library multiple times a week, because we could only take out three books at a time, and I was finished with those in a day or two. Bear in mind, this was in the late 1960s or early 1970s, when children weren't "evaluated", other than academically. As I grew older, I never did form the social bonds that my peers did - I was usually the friend-of-a-friend, who got invited to things because it would have been rude to exclude me. I always had one or two closer friends, usually roommates, but . . .

As an adult, most of my social connections are through work - I have a couple of coworkers that I hang out with during the day, and occasionally see outside, but not often. I'm married to my best friend, and we have three great children. I have a good life, but I know I don't have the social circles that a lot of other people have. And I don't really miss that. That's not to say that I don't care about the people around me - I just have an easier time relating from a distance. It's so much more comfortable for me to share my thoughts and wishes from the other side of this keyboard than in person.

Going back to what justbugged said about not being "allowed" to express some of her thoughts: I don't know how old you are, but I think it's a bit like being lefthanded - my husband went to a Catholic elementary school, where he had his lefthandedness beaten out of him. "Different" wasn't tolerated. At least now, people (including parents and educators) understand that we're not all wired the same, and some of us need a different approach in order to succeed in life.

 

[justbugged]

I was raised back in about the same time you were sfw2. But by very conservative evangelistic parents. They were products of the years before in this country, that was ultra conservative and intolerant of anything that didn't meet the norm of the time. I was very clear that my interest in anything that wasn't religious, or was not in someway of helping the family out was not acceptable in our family. So I often knew to suppress any interest in things that would have been reason to get punished or put down about.

I also knew that I am odd enough that I needed to not alienate my family. It has only been in the past year or so that I have enough faith in the family I have created to take a chance on being truly myself. I still feel limits to what I can explore, and also know that so much of what I sensed during my younger years may have been lost. I still don't know for sure that I am an Aspie, or whether or not the brain injury is what the real problem is. I would think that brain injury, could explain some people with Aspie like symptoms. I know that I differ from a lot of Aspies because I do have a lot of common sense. But that doesn't seem to fix the fact that I don't fit with most NT's either.

I think that for me one of the worst things that bothers me about myself, is knowing that I have gaps in my langue processing. I seem to miss parts of what is being said and I miss words while talking, writing, or even thinking. I often wonder if I am missing something very important.