Some questions I would like to ask are whether you talk to your parents about wanting to participate in the various activities you mention far enough in advance that it can be fit into the schedule? For example, with 4H or youth group, are there other people who could give you a ride? Even though you live at a distance, I'll bet there are people who are willing to help out--especially if you add in some gas money now and again.
It's really best to not compare their treatment of your brothers to their treatment of you--it obvously builds the hostility level. Rather say something like, "I hardly ever get to attend youth group or 4H; is there some way we can fit those into the schedule?" When you speak to your parents, do it in a positive manner rather than one that will likely get them angry or annoyed with you. Flies and honey vs flies and vinegar.
As a parent, it can sometimes be difficult sorting between fair and equal treatment for all the kids, and the more kids there are, the more difficult it can become. Whether or not there really is favouritism or not, I cannot say. But I do know that we have tried really hard to treat all out kids equally and fairly...but I am absolutely positive that every one of them has at times felt that they were being treated less fairly than one or more of their siblings.
It's really best to not compare their treatment of your brothers to their treatment of you--it obvously builds the hostility level. Rather say something like, "I hardly ever get to attend youth group or 4H; is there some way we can fit those into the schedule?" When you speak to your parents, do it in a positive manner rather than one that will likely get them angry or annoyed with you. Flies and honey vs flies and vinegar.
As a parent, it can sometimes be difficult sorting between fair and equal treatment for all the kids, and the more kids there are, the more difficult it can become. Whether or not there really is favouritism or not, I cannot say. But I do know that we have tried really hard to treat all out kids equally and fairly...but I am absolutely positive that every one of them has at times felt that they were being treated less fairly than one or more of their siblings.
