Is this wrong or am I over-reacting?

[SourRoses]

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X2! A big one! With balloons! Hey! I want a balloon!

 

[they'reHISchickens]

I have to confess that I woke up at 3 am last Sunday morning with the realization I had not specifically invited my son #2 and DIL to the family Thanksgiving dinner that day. I said a prayer that she wouldn't be upset and went back to sleep... sorta.
At 8:30 am I called them and told my son..." I'm sorry... did someone tell you?" He laughed, said he knew about it, he and kids were coming over, she had plans to go riding til later. All was ok. Whew.
Then after making the 23 lb turkey and all the fixins and having 2 of the 4 families eat, I snuck away for a nap at 2 pm. Two hours later I woke up -oops! Just missed the DIL who had come and went home again. And here are families #3 & 4 carrying on when mom is here or not. They are very understanding of mom's nap.
update: *uninvited* DIL calls me Thanksgiving morning. 'Do you still have that pumpkin pie you saved for us? I ruined the dessert that I was planning to take to my dad's." Sure... there are two pies in the fridge. Take the can of whipped cream too. We are heading out to friends for the afternoon. Enjoy!
I love my kids. They know I screw up on any given occasion. They do too. We all do what we can.

Now, don't ask me to socialize with my brother - the pompous know-it-all who thinks he is always right. Life is much more peaceful without him around me. You can invite both of us to a function and we will be nice and cordial to each other, but our mama did teach us manners. I just feel I don't have to invite him and he obviously feels the same and that is ok with me.
We can't pick our relatives. I'm not sure there is any rule that says we need to love them, either.