It begins: Attack of the Momzilla (update post 62)

[AnnesChicks]

My advice, keep it simple, make it personal...my daughter got married this weekend..my son got married two years ago. Both affairs were lovely, neither was complicated nor expensive. Almost all the food, decor and flowers and so forth were done by friends and family. It was important to both couples to share this day with their friends and family, so eloping was out of the question. But if you'd rather skip that ~ it is your day.

And may I recommend the Lacey community center? It was very reasonable, a great commercial kitchen (we cooked the meal) and a lovely setting on a small lake.

 

[BluegrassSeramas]

Do what makes you happy...and get a friend or family member to keep her busy!!

 

[HennysMom]

Ugh... I feel for ya

We just celebrated our 20th last month...and... we planned our wedding in 1 month - it was the MOST stressful, most hateful thing we've ever done in all honesty. We never fought up until then..and the night before.. guess what we were doing? Arguing

about...the....wedding!!

We wanted to just get married on the beach... cute little dress... barefoot at sunset.... but nooooooooooooo......

If we had to do it again... that would be the way we'd do it. Maybe for our 25th we'll renew our vows...and it will be on the beach, in a cute little dress... and barefoot!

Do what YOU want.. not what others want. It's ya'll's day. (especially if you're footing the bill

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ETA: I'd go the the JP, get married.... then have a really nice reception - save your money for the honeymoon or a house

 

[monarc23]

Two words: Justice Of Peace your mom doesn't even have to come, get a friend to come or ask someone off the street. LOL

 

[pips&peeps]

At least your not like my SIL, she "may" be on her fourth marriage and is talking about getting married in the Catholic Church..........

I told my DH we were not going and she could consider her previous three wedding gifts suffice.

Seriously, drive over to Idaho get married in a little out of the way place and go home and have a big reception.

 

[cassie]

After having been a bridesmaid a time or two, and worked as a caterers assistant on several fancy weddings, I decided I had had enough of weddings. We told everyone we were going out of town to buy chickens and we drove to Reno and got married.

The nicest wedding I have ever been to was a little hippie wedding held in a meadow. The bride wore a pretty white muslin peasant dress and had a wreath of flowers in her hair. Afterwards there was a small reception with punch and a delicious homemade wedding cake baked by a friend of the bride. It was lovely.

 

[DuckLady]

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[LilRalphieRoosmama]

I feel for ya - my first wedding was the typical big to-do. I hated it and couldn't even enjoy myself. The photographer was constantly arranging us for pictures and dragging me away from the party. Then by the time you go around to all the tables and chit-chat, the party's over. Next time it's JP and DBF's back yard with a cookout for family and friends.

 

[JennsPeeps]

I'm with all of you. DF and I want a small, intimate affair and to get married in a field. If it's raining, so what - we live in the PNW and that happens here from time to time!

After being a wedding coordinator in the church where I grew up and attended 70+ weddings in my lifetime, I'm not interested in a big to-do. I was a professional event planner for 5.5 years and have planned everything from potluck picnics for 10 to weekend-long university homecomings with 20+ events drawing 800+ people. I can plan a party for 30 people with a week's notice. Heck - I did it when my friends from Germany were here, why can't I plan a simple wedding for 50-70 in 2 months?

DF was married once before - a big wedding - and he's not interested either. One of the nicest weddings we've ever been to was a friend who got married on the pier of a restaurant. It was perfect: surrounded by friends and loved ones.

DF and I are going to go look at the site one more time and try to see it objectively. If we decide it's still OK, then we'll tell my folks nicely to be supportive or butt out entirely. If we suddenly realize that it's a falling down shack we'll reconsider.

I plan to ask friends to decorate for us as a wedding gift. They are famous thrift store shoppers with great taste, and I'm confident they'll do a lovely job and make it pretty and romantic.

Another friend is a fabulous photographer. She'd do a wonderful job.

As fod food, we'll ask friends to help with that if it comes to it, or it my folks want to have it catered, we'll do that. We're flexible and easy-going because what really matters is having the people we love witness the beginning of our marriage.

A wedding is secondary to a marriage.

 

[EweSheep]

I feel ya!!

Hubby and I planned the wedding ourselves with the help of our friends who can take a reservation in the park where we do our Civil War reenactments.

We had our dresses, we didnt spend a dime on it. It was already in our wardrobes. My matron of honor, she portrayed Mrs Lincoln, I told her to bring her favorite dress and not white in color.

Hubby wore his kilts and his best man was our General, dressed up to the nines!

Our cake was one sheet cake, enough to feed 36 people from WalMart and lovely flowers on it. Cost us 25.00.

Use of the gazebo at the park....free!

My SIL played her dulicmer for our wedding music....Free but I gave her a beautiful Yankee Candle and a brooch for her time.

The photographer, a dear friend of ours came in from Chicago, she took pictures, gave us a CD of our wedding and photobook...all for free!

Our lovely pastor who took our original pastor's place in a split minute of our wedding to start, his services, 2 strawberry shortcakes!

In total cost of getting the cake, gifts to the people that assisted us at the wedding, we spent no more than $300 on the entire thing, invitations and all. I did not allow my mom to "run" the wedding her way or foot in the expenses, she got bent out of shape about us making the decisions. Heck we were waaaaay over the legal age of getting married and we didn't want to burden our parents with wedding expenses.

So, all in a nutshell, you plan your wedding the WAY you WANT! Its your day!