It's not a big thing but I'm crying.

[Kelly G]

Grit - there are enough of us here on BYC that I'm sure we could get you from the airport to your Dad's if you decide to go that route. It isn't all that far from Tampa. We camp down there a lot (in the cooler weather!).

Please, keep this thread posted - I'll keep an eye to see if I can ever help.

 

[gritsar]

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Thanks so much Kelly. I told DH about it tonight. Need to call Dad this week. Even if he won't come back with me I'd like another visit with him, just the two of us. I'll definitely keep your kind offer in mind.

 

[nanawendy]

gritsar... You inspired me to set up a calling system for my mom. My kids and I are going to try to rotate calls. This way she can get a couple calls a week. Thank You for waking us up....

Wendy

 

[gritsar]

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Hopefully you'll be making those calls for many, many years.

Quite a few years ago I took a bit of advice I had read in a Dear Abby column. I sat down and wrote my parents a letter telling them how thankful I was to have them as parents. I was a wild child that gave my parents quite a bit of grief and gray hairs. It was a very hard letter for me to write and I went through several rough drafts. My mom called me in tears the day they received it.

I couldn't have known it at the time but a short while later my mom passed away. In her handwritten instructions on what to do in the event of her death she added at the bottom of the page that she wanted to be buried with a lock of hair and the hospital i.d. bracelet that belonged to my brother David (he died in infancy) and that letter I had written her/them. You never know when it will be too late.

 

[nanawendy]

wow... goose bumps. Good for you for following that inspiration. My mom and I had one of those cool talks , that I was able to be specific about my appreciation. Even in her fogginess she was able to grasp that message I was trying to convey. I think I will take your suggestion and write these thoughts down in letter form. So she can pick it up and re read it. Good Idea Thanks

 

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Hopefully you'll be making those calls for many, many years.

Quite a few years ago I took a bit of advice I had read in a Dear Abby column. I sat down and wrote my parents a letter telling them how thankful I was to have them as parents. I was a wild child that gave my parents quite a bit of grief and gray hairs. It was a very hard letter for me to write and I went through several rough drafts. My mom called me in tears the day they received it.

I couldn't have known it at the time but a short while later my mom passed away. In her handwritten instructions on what to do in the event of her death she added at the bottom of the page that she wanted to be buried with a lock of hair and the hospital i.d. bracelet that belonged to my brother David (he died in infancy) and that letter I had written her/them. You never know when it will be too late.

Oh, Kat..

 

[gritsar]

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Yep, I've found that the seniors I know - my dad and other dear elderly friends - appreciate a letter even more than a phone call for just that reason. They read them over and over again whenever they need a pick up in their day.

My dad's vision is failing so I'm thankful for word processing software that allows me to enlarge the font to a size I know he can easily read.

 

[gritsar]

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[Slinkytoys]

You can always tell me to mind my own business....but..... does your husband have more than his two daughters to leave the "family farm" to??? IF he only has those girls, I would say the heck with it and sell the farm. They sure won't treasure it and keep it in the family.
You are subjugating your desires because you love your husband. I hope you won't begrudge him because you can't visit your father more often. You two seem to have a pretty good relationship, though marred by his children. Maybe it's time to sit with an estate attorney to understand family trusts and other probate issues. It might open his eyes.
Slinky

 

[gritsar]

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I have told DH repeatedly that it's time we sat down with an attorney and get our affairs in order. He's resistant. #1. I think it makes him feel old to talk about it and #2. He plans to do it the way his parents did, with everything being left to the offspring. I have also talked to him multiple times about leaving the farm to his kids that will sell it before he's even cold in his grave. He's come to that realization on his own, but says he now wants to leave it for his grandson. Still working on making him understand that would have to be done through legal channels. He's just the type of person that has to come to decisions in his own time; sometimes that takes awhile.

I could never begrudge my DH for anything. I used to be afraid of growing old. I am no longer am, as long as he is by my side.

Plus, I know he would put me on a plane tomorrow if I only asked him to.

Oh sorry, to answer your question. No, DH has his two daughters and two elderly aunts left, that's it.