I've got to say something, or I'll explode!

[Mahonri]

Shucks.

Hang in there.

Keep praying. Everything will work out in the end.

And thanks for saying something and not exploding!

 

[Harley's girl]

I will be praying for you and your daughter! Good luck to you. May God bless you and be with you through this whole ordeal.

 

[Picky Chicky]

Our DD is only 7 now but we're already seeing a lot of defiance in her. It worries me sick. Without going into all the boring medical details, our daughter has behavioral issues when she gets sick (strep, flu, whatever, you name it). She has these raging fits and will tell people she wants to cut their arm off, or kill them - it sounds horrid. When she recovers from her 'fit', she doesn't really remember what happened - it's almost seizure like. She's been to doctors galore, and is seeing one of them this week for a reoccurence of the rage fits (we were rage-fit-free for 5 months until she got sick again).

Anyways, it sounds bad, but I've admitted to my own mother that I worry that if she doesn't get cured, or grow out of this... I'll worry that one morning I might not wake up if she goes into a rage while I'm asleep.

Good luck with yours!! We'll keep you in our thoughts.

 

[SpottedCrow]

Hugs and prayers...

It seems like they listen more to what the kids say than what's the truth these days...
All of us fossilized folks remember the daycare sex abuse scandals...and the satanic ritual abuse scandals and how they believed everything but the truth.

 

[DeeTee]

I wish I had something practical to say to help, but all I can say is all our thoughts are with you.
Interestingly, my wife and I are thinking about Fostering, and it just seems to us that life on our little farm is wholesome and stable and should be good for kids.

 

[roosmom]

Chickbaby, I am sorry to hear about all this. I was an INCORRIGIBLE child. My parents are good people who taught me morals and values. They made me follow rules and do housework. I repaid them by telling authorities that my parents abused me. My parents had to send me to a girls home when I got pregnant. I lied, stole, smoked marijuana. I insisted I was in love with a guy 4 yrs older than me. I spent a year there and then came home. My parents made me responsible for the child I had. I immediately got hooked back up with the same guy and got pregnant again. My parents let me get married. My father did not go to the wedding. The man I married was the most abusive man I have ever met. Two more children later, I got divorced.
My mother did everything she could for me. My father was very standoffish and I knew he was disappointed in me. They stood by me when I got divorced and reassured me they would be fine when I told them that my ex had threatened to kill them and my kids, if I left him. They gave me the moral support I needed to move on.
To this day, I look at my parents and tell them I love them, and that they are not at fault for my bad behaviour. I tell them I am sorry. I am sorry.
Chikybaby, only you know the truth of the matter.....only you two know wether this will be right for you. I can tell you that sending me away, and being there for me later was exactly what I needed. My parents taught me good values and good morals, once I got older and realised that LIFE DOES NOT REVOLVE AROUND ME, I grew up. That is what needed to happen, I needed to grow up and stop being so selfish. Take heart, what ever way you decide to deal with this, it is not your fault. Please do not feel guilty.

 

[TT]

It is sad that now a days children seem to have more rights than they did when we were growing up. I know that some things had to be changed to protect children from abuse (I can't tolerate people who hurt children), but I think they go to far sometimes.

I hope this all works out for ya'll - I can't imagine how I would cope if it were me. I'll remember ya'll in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Wildsky]

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Not just today's kids.

I did the same thing (running away), after my mother died.
I finally left home totally at 16, and never went back.

 

[morelcabin]

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I raised a son that was EXACTLY like this...you are right they are like seizures...actually they are psychotic episodes...and when she is in one you should record her on a camcorder everytime she does this...one day you WILL need it as evidence...trust me on that. You are in for a rough ride, I won't lie to you. People (doctors, psychologists, childrens services, the schools) may blame you for what is going on...they may assume abuse...and the wildest thing is that they will QUESTION her about crazy things while she is in one of these episodes and really doesn't even know her own name. The answers they will get might surprise you. Anyway, hang on tight. If you have other kids in the home be extra cautious. We lived under the threat of losing all our kids for years to social services because of the one. Anyway I won't scare you anymore...but find a good psychologist that will listen to you, the parents...if you ever need to talk, pm me:>)


Chickbaby, sometimes as parents we have to let go and let our kids learn thier own lessons. It is very hard, I know, been there. But there are some kids that are going to do what they are going to do anyway and you have no control. That system is the most frustrating system out there, and as parents we are always the first ones to blame...when it is in actuality the systems fault that our kids are getting away with this!
I will keep you in my prayers

 

[Chickybaby]

I am overwhelmed by eveyones responses and support! For those of you who were in her shoes, thank you for reminding me that some of this is due to age, and no matter what we do she can't see our thoughts or reasons. The last time we spent time with her, we told her that it was okay that she gave up on us, but we weren't going to give up on her. And we have't. But is sure is getting harder all the time, and we've toyed with the thoughts of just letting her go - more than once. I guess it's just a sad reflection of how things are in the world today, it's all messed up... DeeTee, good luck and God bless you for considering fostering. I believe there is a great need for people who care and have something to offer children other than video games, cell phones and parties. We have a small farm too, and the social workers all can't believe any child would want to leave it. It is a simple life for sure, but it's a good life and we wouldn't change it. We are all being ordered into therapy but it can't come soon enough for me. We need to start building bridges instead of breaking into smaller pieces. God bless you all for being here and for having us in your thoughts and prayers.