@dunnmom
Having lots of money does not teach the same lessons that very little money does.
I never buy clothes full price. Often Sources are free clothes. Just getting shoes are an issue but now that my kids have bigger feet than me, I buy them the new shoes and I take the old shoes.
I live in an area different than where I grew up-- money is God; and the bigger the house, the better. A track of land across the street has been leveled to put in 54ish ENOURMOUS houses. IF I was rich, a big house is not where I would put my money.
WHen DH and I bought our property years ago, it was all about the land. Now, that feeling is 100x stronger. I look at the small barns and see an option for the kids if they want to move out of the house and have more private time away from Mom and Dad.
I see birch trees that I just learned I can tap. TO NOT cut them down to plant sugar maples, that need 25 years of growth before first harvest.
Basically I just changed my thinking. ANd try to push away the "Im less than you are" thinking and I hold on to that God loves me just as much, if Im allowed to say that.
I try to be thankful, which is hard sometimes, but when I remeber to think aobut the good things, my spirits lift.
Today I see activity at the cedar tree. I have been waiting for the robins to set up house. THough concerned that they will abandon their nest of many years due to storm damage to the tree causing it to list. Juncos are flitting around, looks like it is repairing or altering the robin nest.... guess the tree will stay for one more year despite the damage.
Most people that would come to my house would only see the listing tree and think poorly of us; I see a home for the junco.