Just wants to be friends?

[OPIE]

I guess. Ive seen it happen to alot of my friends. Same ol same ol.

 

[debilorrah]

I cannot imagine Ken thinking he can come home and say let's be friends are staying in the same house. Makes me go hmmm?

 

[OPIE]

f course, he doesnt want to lose anything, he wants life to be just the way it was except he isnt expected to love and care for her he wants to do that with the other "person" and when they have things ready, he will move out and take what he wants with him and it wont be at the most oportunr time for her either. More than likely he has already eparated any of the financials (bank accounts, etc) and was anticipating her throwing him out (which she should have done, in my opinion)There are advocat groups out there to help women in this situation, its bad, I know she must be heart broke. BUt what do ya do.
I have my own sayin, "when the goin gets tough, the shi* hits the road!" ......

 

[mom'sfolly]

gee, I wasn't thinking girlfriend, I was thinking boyfriend. The whole lets just be friends stuff sounded weird to me.

 

[Laskaland]

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Even with those nails??

I agree with you, though. My man is my best friend. It would be sad to marry someone who wasn't

I'm such a dork, he would have left me a long time ago if he wasn't the best guy in the world...

I will keep them in my thoughts. I work with special needs kids, and I know how hard (yet rewarding!) it is to raise them.

 

[OPIE]

Well, that could be true. He may have crossed the tracks on 'er.

 

[SpottedCrow]

That's a very sad situation especially for the kids.
Hugs and prayers for your friend.
Sounds like her DH needs a spur in the buttocks...jes sayin

 

[Wifezilla]

I'm still not clear on who the kids belong to...are they hers by another guy or is the husband the father?

 

[coffeemama]

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They are his-he is much older than her-has an older set of children as well. I'm not positive of her age, but I think she's under 25. They have lost their house and she has been staying with her mom for the past month while he sleeps in their house to try and keep it from having the bank take it. When she told me that a month ago I was like hmmmmmm.

She has pretty much nothing at this point, but at least she has her mom to stay with.

Don't know about the girlfriend thing-I get the feeling he was probably not completely honest with his last wife when he got with my friend. Not sure though...

 

[sred98]

mom'sfolly :

gee, I wasn't thinking girlfriend, I was thinking boyfriend. The whole lets just be friends stuff sounded weird to me.

Honestly, this was my first thought, too. I've known people in that situation and that was how it was handled. Try and stay friends for the kids' sake, but "date discreetly". Not a good situation. A lot of times the women go for it, though, hoping to change them.

However, since he seems to have left his first wife and family for the second wife and family, (I really don't know, just going by appearances) then he may feel it is time to trade her in for the latest model. That doesn't make as much sense as the first scenario, though. Unless he is in the beginning stages of the new girl romance and isn't ready to move in with her yet.

Who knows. It is a terrible situation. I feel badly for your friend.
The best thing you can do is be supportive.

Shelly​