Kids and livestock...

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Oh, well, he see's me as the Meany Mom who makes him do chores, homework, work hard, not whine, etc... typical 7yo. DH and I seperated for a year (last year, though we're together and better then ever now), which didn't help matters any. He's getting better about it all though. Just time, growing up, and consistency is key for him.
 
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Yeah, its definitely not something we're hiding from them. Nor would we. Its a part of life that they need to learn to deal with, especially living on the farm now.

I just got unexpected reactions this time, which took me by suprise, tbh. The first animal that died, a calf, they both cried a bit and were very snuggly after, with me. With the several that have died since, in the short timespan, I worried they'd developed some "emotional block" Not that I'd blame em, I don't like dealing with it either, but, its life, and something that happens, yanno?

Yall really helped me understand better. I very much appreciate the kind words, and useful advice on the situation
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DD helped me drag the heifer over to the pit this morning, and was very brave about it. She showed some sadness, so we just sat and snuggled and talked about what happened for a few minutes. (though I don't recomend a running tractor as the best kid kuddles spot
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) and she's been alright.

Hopefully DH's talk with DS goes well this afternoon.

Once again, thank you to yall. Its definetly been a comfort reading yalls words
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That sounds more expected, what you describe in the boy. Sorry about the divorce. Some studies say the kids adjust better if it happens when they're young rather than as teens. That surprised me but that's what a couple studies said.
 
A really good friend of mine is verging on about 50 years old.. He was married once, had a son, got a divorce, then eventually re-married to a woman who's just now in her mid 30's. (
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) They have a son that's about 12, and a daughter who's about 6.. He actually has a 3yo grandson and a 6yo daughter..
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Anyway, his two youngest have grown up around livestock. Commercial meat goats, in particular.. Commercial meat goats have this really bad habit of dying. Frequently, in fact.. It's usually only 1-death/goat, of course
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, but that goes across a lot of goats, so there's a lot of death.. That's just kinda how it is with commercial meat goats. Now, if one of their goats were to become injured and had to be euthanized, well...they butchered and ate it. It didn't matter if it was a kid or an age-old, broke-down doe. It got et'.

They also had some really nice, registered breeding stock.. That's where most of the income was, too..

He told me that one day, when his daughter was about 3, they had some visitors out there -- money in hand -- interested in buying some of the show stock. They were walking around in a pen when the little girl saw one of the does stretched out in the dirt.. She slipped up on the doe, loooooooked her over, then WHACK! -- kicked the fire out of her.

The ol' doe jumped up out of a dead sleep and ran away as fast as she could.

The little girl walked back over to where her dad was talking to their visitors, folded her arms up, and stood there with an awful scowl on her face.. The lady visitor asked her "Awww, what's the matter darlin'?"

She looked up at the lady, pointed back out at the old doe and said "I thought we eat."

Apparently, time stood still for a while...

Just as the visitors were beginning to process what the little girl had said, my buddy jumped in and said "OH HEY, come on over here and lemme show you some goats in this other pen...."


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All kids are curious about death. Farm kids get over that curiosity a lot quicker. As a result, they seem "weird" in comparison to other kids. I don't think I'd fret over it too much.
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OH!...same guy was also talking about a doe he thought he might have to shoot. Not because she was injured, but because she was a PAIN to be around and was teaching a whole other pen full of goats to be ornery. He said he absolutely COULD NOT catch her, and that she was smart to any kind of chute, trap, pen -- whatever. He was totally serious about putting her in the freezer on account of it, too.. I was there, listening to this conversation mind you...heard it with my own two ears.

Son, then about 10yo: "OOOOH! Can I do it?!?"
Buddy: "NO. Absolutely not!"
Son: "Oh, c'mon! Why not?!?"
Buddy: "Because I want her shot in the head, and last time I let you do it, you hit the shoulder and wasted a bunch of meat!"
Son: "OK, but I'll hit it in the head this time! I promise!"

Me:
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I don't have kids so what am I to say anything...

I wouldn't worry. Death happens, it's only as big of a deal as you make it and I think how kids react to it is molded by society and what you show them.

To me... Death happens, and if I ever have kids, they'll know that too.
 
I remember my first few deaths (ratties), they where the hardest. Especially putting down the feeders for the snakes. But hey, everyones gotta eat. I wanted snakes, I have to feed them.

After that your kind of 'immune' to it. I love my animals dearly, but if the time comes the time comes. I put down a bunny a day or two ago, a very dear pet, but I didn't shed a tear. Sounds heartless, but I didn't feel any huge pain over it. It was her time to go and I just helped her along so she wouldn't suffer
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It was rather weird not seeing her there anymore, but it wasn't a heartbreaking drama.

Death is something you just learn to accept, I suppose. Never really thought about it honestly
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