Kid's Birthday party Vent UPDATE pg 3

[toletiquesbysam]

Hardly anyone RSVP's anymore, but in your case having them do it is beneficial. Could you contact the school/teacher to get a list of the kids phone numbers and start calling to get a response? I would try that first. Since it's kindergartners it's a little hard for the child to ask and get the correct response, so you might just want to estimate 8-10kids come and hopefully you guess correctly!

 

[Judy]

It seems that it has become the norm to not bother to RSVP, not bother to send thank-you notes, and feel free to crash a party with the invited kid's 6 siblings. You could get 2 or 50. Good luck.

 

[SarahBeth9394]

Last year 6 months before her birthday (15) I told my daughter if she wanted a party we would give her one. She was like ok mom, not a yes, not a no, not really interested. So I didn't plan one. The day before her birthday I kid you not she asked who she could invite to the party. So I had to tell her sorry no party we had already spent the birthday money on gifts for her and didn't plan for a party. So this year I told her just a couple weeks ago that for her birthday (in April) she can either have a party or get something real nice for her birthday. She chose the something real nice.

Out here in elementary school they tell parents that if they are going to send invitations with their kids to pass out at school they have to invite all the kids in the classroom. My daughter gets several invites each year.

 

[Chickenmaven]

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This is why I made it a point to get a phone list and (sigh!) call everyone. I got alot of parents saying "oh, yeah, I told my kid to tell your kid -yes"

and I got alot of parents saying they had not seen the invitation

As for party crashers, expect some. We've even had cousins of guests show up, cousins!

I am so grateful to have teens. They just wanna do "Hang out" parties.

 

[rebelcowboysnb]

This is the first time in my life that I've had the foggiest idea what RSVP means.... I remember hearing it in a movie once an asked what it meant, No one knew. Maybe I just live to far back in the sticks? Maybe its because we still hand deliver invitations around here? Or maybe its because there's so little going on around here that if you throw a party its assumed that everyone will show up because there's nothing else to do? The "what do I need to bring" phone calls everyone makes may have a lot to do with it?

 

[HennysMom]

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Honestly, I was quite shocked by the rudeness LOL! I thought country folk were supposed to be nicer than city folk

I've discoverd that when living in the suburbs it was like Desperate Housewives - everyone knew everything about everyone - out here in the middle of nowhere land- while we have neighbors - everyone keeps to themselves all the time. BUT - if you need something, they'll definately be there to help you.

I prefer that actually as I like having my "business" to myself, thank you. But.. there are worst clicks out here in "Mayberry" with women and kids than there were in the city I find.

I want a bumper sticker that reads:

My kids live in the country and dont know what birthday parties are

 

[Rhett&SarahsMom]

Yup.. must be a common trend.
I sent invites last year to her entire KG class(26 kids) for her 6th bday party. Not only did I put a RSVP by date. But i also gave my home number AND email address.

Two replied. 4 showed up.

And "just in case" more showed that had not RSVP'd I had more party bags made up and more cake than I needed.

This year the kid wasnt her party at the local indoor water park.

If she only wants to invite 1 kid. I can do that.
If not she is only going to be allowed to invite a few kids and we will have pizza etc here.

 

[Chirpy]

We have no money, so birthdays here are having our kids closest friends overnight and just playing around at our house. Since it means only 2 to 8 extra kids coming over we just call all of them individually a few weeks before to give them the dates and then again the week before to find out who's coming. No stress... no worries. The kids always have a riot and look forward to it each year.

It would be so hard to go through what you all have described above. I applaud you for being prepared for one or 28 kids!

 

[luvmychicknkids]

Ugh.......we don't do birthday parties but had a Halloween party a couple of years ago. It was my three kids and my mom's two so we let each invite 5 kids (25 sounded like a good #). Almost no one RSVP'd so I was thinking it would be a flop. By the time everyone showed up with sisters, brothers, cousins (even a particular cousin my children despise) we had about 40 kids. Good thing I made tons extra of everything!!! It was a blast though and I am planning it again this year.

 

[debilorrah]

I have had that happen with just about every party my son ever had growing up. No one responds and they all show up. Once, everyone responded and 1 kid showed up

Who knows?