LGBTQ+ Poultry Keepers

[Sally PB]

29 today and already got asked by a complete stranger about when I'll be having kids as the time is running out.
Not sure if I've mentioned here but I don't plan on having kids at all and if for some reason I changed my mind to have 1 kid, it's going to be me using both a donor and a surrogate.
I have plans to eventually ensure my body is unable to have kids. Can't remember or be bothered to look up what the medical name is.

What a RUDE question.

First, none of their business. Second, really, time is not running out; my mom had me at age 36 in 1962 when that was "old for having kids."

I knew when I was about 12 that I didn't want to have kids. I chose to not have any kids. I told my husband (boyfriend at the time) that I didn't want to have kids and wanted to get my tubes tied. That was fine with him. (Good, because if he'd wanted kids, that would have ended the relationship.)

I have had people look at me funny when I said I didn't have any and didn't want any. My sister thought that was "sad." A high school friend of mine said, "You'll change your mind," in a very matter-of-fact voice. People have said I wasn't "fulfilling my destiny."

It is ok for people to do things with their lives that do not include having a family. Leave them alone.

Happy Birthday. And many, many more!

 

[allosaurusrock]

And someone doesn't need to have kids to have a family. Me and my partner are still a "family" even though my disability makes it unsafe for me to have children. And we are also part of both of our parents' families. Its very rude when people assume others need children to have fulfilled lives. And also a very hard thing to hear when you want kids but its just not an option for you. (Such as myself).