LGBTQ+ Poultry Keepers

[PhillyDelcoChix]

I sure did bring it up directly. I didn’t want there to be any confusion. He had one of those sex-ed-parent-child-talk assignments from school (so I had a captive audience). Since he was already mortified, I came right out and said “Some day you are going to be interested in somebody else in ‘that way’, and whether it’s a boy or girl, your dad and I are cool with that.” (Cue eye roll) then he said “I know, but that doesn’t mean I want to talk about it now.”

Best we parents can do is be there if they do want to talk. It just breaks my heart that so many people can’t share their full selves with their parents for fear of rejection.

Aw bless.
Well you did your mommy self proud.
Now you’ve opened the door, he knows he can talk you.
I think our kids keep stuff from us because they don’t want us to be disappointed, or concerned for them.
He may be figuring things out for himself first.
As a closeted bi woman most of my life, I can attest that knowing exactly what the hell you are isn’t really always that clear to us right away either.

 

[Tre3hugger]

@Xouie Just curious, has your son expressed anything that makes you think he is not straight? Or is it just something you think about, inevitably, as a parent of a kid that age?

 

[Shannon Robinson50]

Our kids have grown up knowing that you you are and who you love is ok. Our first talk about different is ok was when our girls asked about our lovely neighbors. They were like, “ ok. “ it’s always been ok to be you in our home. We used the term different because our girls were 3, 4 and 5 years old. Sorry if this term , different, offends anyone. It is not meant to. My kids keep telling me that I’m behind the times, but I’m trying. if there are any non offensive terms to get this across, please feel free to educate me.

 

[aart]

We used the term different because our girls were 3, 4 and 5 years old.

Appropriate for that age, IMO.

My kids keep telling me that I’m behind the times, but I’m trying.

How old are they now?

 

[Tre3hugger]

Our kids have grown up knowing that you you are and who you love is ok. Our first talk about different is ok was when our girls asked about our lovely neighbors. They were like, “ ok. “ it’s always been ok to be you in our home. We used the term different because our girls were 3, 4 and 5 years old. Sorry if this term , different, offends anyone. It is not meant to. My kids keep telling me that I’m behind the times, but I’m trying. if there are any non offensive terms to get this across, please feel free to educate me.

That is lovely. You got lucky kids.

I think in this case, if by "different" you mean gay, just say gay! Or lesbian or trans or whatever they were. I, personally don't find the term offensive, i'd be more pissed if someone called me "normal" actually, but why not just call it what it is. It fits here. "Our first talk about gay being ok was when out girls..."

I guess it's hard to know the right age to tell them stuff, but if they can understand enough to know that two people of the opposite sex being married is considered "normal" by society standards, they can probably handle the definition of gay. 2 people of the same sex loving each other.

In no way am I saying you did the wrong thing and I appreciate you being here to talk about stuff like this. It is hard to get tone across in text. I promise, mine is kind and open right now.

 

[Xouie]

@Xouie Just curious, has your son expressed anything that makes you think he is not straight? Or is it just something you think about, inevitably, as a parent of a kid that age?

Yeah, just a parent thing. Guess I’ve seen too many people who struggled with “coming out” when they would have had an easier time with family support. I think/hope most parents try to save our kids the struggles when we can.

 

[Xouie]

Not sure if I told any of you yet but I gave our duck eggs to 2 ladies to hatch out for me as I didn't have a incubator or broody hen to use and I just heard back from the first lady. 9 days left until they hatch and she said all 6 are still developing well. I'm excited to find out what they'll look like since they'll be Khaki Campbell X Indian Runner mixes.

So we’ll be looking at duckling pictures on the 20th? Marking the calendar!

 

[KikiDeAnime]

So we’ll be looking at duckling pictures on the 20th? Marking the calendar!

Yup!

 

[cinnamoncockatiel]

Hi! How are y´all?

 

[Xouie]

Hi! How are y´all?

Starting a super long weekend for presidents’ week. How bout you?