LGBTQ+ Poultry Keepers

[ChocolateMouse]

I second this!

I'm a straight cis female, but I figure what anyone does in the bedroom or wants to wear (in the case of trans) is their business and not my problem. My husband is a highschool teacher and one of the boys (that to our knowledge is not gay or trans) showed up to prom last year in a dress and heels and he absolutely rocked that dress (he could have shaved the beard, but that's another topic entirely... lol).

I do admit, I am curious about the mechanics of some things and do appreciate LGBTQ people that are open to answering questions (not on here, that wouldn't be appropriate and I only ask people that I know fairly well those things) the exact same way I am curious about other religions and religious practices ( I was raised in a christian household with no exposure to other religions as a child so I'm learning now).

I know there's a lot of "Ask a LGBTQ+" videos out there, where people ask the inappropriate questions they can't actually ask folks IRL. My favorite is one that was done with intersex people where they answered some really personal questions about their bodies and personal lives.

There's probably some trans ones you could benefit from as well. I find it's a subject that's harder to work with if you're cis (it was for me) and it's one that I think a lot of folks appreciate hearing about. Entirely by accident I think a lot of people trying to support trans folks use some really awkward/uncomfortable language and those types of videos go a long way towards learning better ways to communicate.

Some of us are cozy answering whatever. It just matters that you ask someone who is and accept "i'm not answering that" as an answer. Obviously most people don't wanna answer those questions.

 

[Kusanar]

I know there's a lot of "Ask a LGBTQ+" videos out there, where people ask the inappropriate questions they can't actually ask folks IRL. My favorite is one that was done with intersex people where they answered some really personal questions about their bodies and personal lives.

There's probably some trans ones you could benefit from as well. I find it's a subject that's harder to work with if you're cis (it was for me) and it's one that I think a lot of folks appreciate hearing about. Entirely by accident I think a lot of people trying to support trans folks use some really awkward/uncomfortable language and those types of videos go a long way towards learning better ways to communicate.

Some of us are cozy answering whatever. It just matters that you ask someone who is and accept "i'm not answering that" as an answer. Obviously most people don't wanna answer those questions.

Totally understand. There was a trans woman at work that I used to chat with a good bit, it was pretty interesting. Also hilarious was that a lesbian dom and the trans woman were lowkey fighting over me... and I'm over here going... but, I dont like chicks... lol

 

[aart]

All the 'labels' and 'definitions' are crazy.

 

[ChristinLewin]

I’m queer

 

[Tre3hugger]

All the 'labels' and 'definitions' are crazy.

I think it is very common for the majority group to "label and define" things, to a fault, in an attempt to understand or feel like they understand them. It is often tedious and confusing, and seemingly unnecessary.

On the other side of the coin, I can see the first step in a lot of people's quest for identity, sexual or otherwise, being the ability to find an orientation that accurately describes them. It offers a sense of belonging for people and a feeling like their struggle/reality is at least recognized, if not accepted.

It can certainly be overwhelming at times keeping track and trying not to offend anyone. However if someone SELF IDENTIFIES as something, even if it seems crazy, it just makes sense to me to do my best to respect that. Cause why not?

 

[Tre3hugger]

I’m queer

Me and ya both! Or pan. Or maybe some would call it bi. I just know if I connect with someone, I don't really care much what's between their legs!

 

[ChocolateMouse]

That's what people do. It's how we identify and relate to one another. It's not like you can just NOT label things, our whole brains are programmed to find patterns efficiently.

It's not like you can have a conversation like "Hello! What do you do for a living?" "Oh, I work." "Oh I too work for a living! We are normal humans aren't we?" "Yes we are.".

Instead we divide and label and then define some more, because that's just kind of how language works. It's a balance between strict definitions and evolution of language that makes it so when I say "I'm bi, I'm a dom, I'm a drag queen" or even "I'm a farmer" or "I've got a wife" or "I love God" we know what the other person is saying and how it relates to us. And leaving things unlabeled makes it harder to relate to one another. If I don't say "I'm bi and poly" you would never know if I'm someone whose life experiences you could relate to, or if you're attracted to me you could never know if there's even a chance I could be attracted back, or even if I'm someone you want to be friends with because your religion forbids it.

For that matter, a lack of labels tends to cover up the existence of minorities and make it harder for them to relate to one another. It's easy to say "intersex people are just a rare anomaly" when you don't know that 2 out of every 100 people are intersex. And we can't know how many there are if we don't define it somehow. Gay marriage wouldn't be a thing if a lot of people hadn't been able to stand up and say "I'm gay". The recent court decision protecting our right to not get fired couldn't exist without defining who we are.

We wouldn't get very far without labels for things, as confining as they can be sometimes. The nice thing is, though, we can always change our mind, make new labels, or change old ones if we need to.

 

[Tre3hugger]

That's what people do. It's how we identify and relate to one another. It's not like you can just NOT label things, our whole brains are programmed to find patterns efficiently.

It's not like you can have a conversation like "Hello! What do you do for a living?" "Oh, I work." "Oh I too work for a living! We are normal humans aren't we?" "Yes we are.".

Instead we divide and label and then define some more, because that's just kind of how language works. It's a balance between strict definitions and evolution of language that makes it so when I say "I'm bi, I'm a dom, I'm a drag queen" or even "I'm a farmer" or "I've got a wife" or "I love God" we know what the other person is saying and how it relates to us. And leaving things unlabeled makes it harder to relate to one another. If I don't say "I'm bi and poly" you would never know if I'm someone whose life experiences you could relate to, or if you're attracted to me you could never know if there's even a chance I could be attracted back, or even if I'm someone you want to be friends with because your religion forbids it.

For that matter, a lack of labels tends to cover up the existence of minorities and make it harder for them to relate to one another. It's easy to say "intersex people are just a rare anomaly" when you don't know that 2 out of every 100 people are intersex. And we can't know how many there are if we don't define it somehow. Gay marriage wouldn't be a thing if a lot of people hadn't been able to stand up and say "I'm gay". The recent court decision protecting our right to not get fired couldn't exist without defining who we are.

We wouldn't get very far without labels for things, as confining as they can be sometimes. The nice thing is, though, we can always change our mind, make new labels, or change old ones if we need to.

Well said

 

[ChocolateMouse]

Thanks. I'm just a dirty descriptivist like that. :3

Oh, and to be fair, I often deliberately don't label my own gender or the genders of my partners, etc. because of some of the responses I will get to those labels. What we are and how we define ourselves matters, for better or worse.

 

[Tre3hugger]

How bout some gratuitous guinea cuteness?

This is them checking in on their pasture mates, 11 cornish x broilers.