I can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear!
Well, I can. I know some LOVELY people in the drag scene and I did some hobby costuming for a lotta years. I can sew a corset from scraps. I also know my mom balked at makeup hard but damn when my goth sister who is our social circles resident makeup artist put it on her did she looked just lovely and glowing for my other sisters wedding.
The only problem is these hobbies are expensive and time consuming. People will spend hours and hours custom tailoring their outfits. High quality makeup is pricey, and the older you get the more important a good quality makeup is so it doesn't damage fragile skin. A lot of us pool our resources. I don't live with my sister anymore and we still share makeup and accessories when we go out to the club.
Oh god and don't even get me started on the shoes. Finding knee high black leather boots with 6" heels in mens sizes is VERY hard.
You stop by Ohio sometime after the pandemic and I'll hook you up. XD