LGBTQ+ Poultry Keepers

[KikiDeAnime]

Oh no, I meant that it could be worse than dumped pullets. It could always be males, and then you'll start wishing for those pullets again

I know this is going to sound weird but I actually love the males. I'm hoping to one day open up a rescue for unwanted male birds

 

[Sally PB]

With so many people wanting chicks/pullets, is it hard to find a home for them out there?

 

[BelovedBirds]

My worst is when I have the slightest bit of proof to feed my anxiety, I have the perfect example for you, which is also relevant right now. Just two days ago I got three new bantam mixes. Today I heard the silkied pullet do the faintest little sneeze ever, she wasn't bothered at all, she did this twice. Due to my recent experience with losing my three silkies (those were silkies, these guys are mixes, two of them just happen to have the silkie gene) whom I heard one sneezing ONCE a week prior to their passing, I'm now freaking out if she's going to have the same fate as them, amd if the others will too. For me this is the worst, because since I have this little bit of proof, my brain perceives it as a fact, and I'm going crazy from all the anxiety

My brain does this too! Especially with my animals. And I also have a ton of nightmares about all my fears with them.
I had my first situationship with a girl a while ago, and I got anxious about some stuff, I got proven right, she ended up ghosting me, and now it's burned into my brain lol

The human brain is extraordinary but I hate how my anxious mind works sometimes lol

 

[fluffycrow]

My brain does this too! Especially with my animals. And I also have a ton of nightmares about all my fears with them.
I had my first situationship with a girl a while ago, and I got anxious about some stuff, I got proven right, she ended up ghosting me, and now it's burned into my brain lol

The human brain is extraordinary but I hate how my anxious mind works sometimes lol

Right? It's so exhausting

 

[BelovedBirds]

Right? It's so exhausting

Very

 

[fangedknight]

Perhaps, I probably won't until I at least have a new home lined up, to be safe if worst comes to worst. We go out for lunch sometimes, it would probably be during or after something like that

I can't help but think about a marriage show we often watch, last season there was a lesbian couple and she talked about them as though they were any other couple. My dad made disgusting comments, but she didn't join in. She seemed to disapprove of his jokes. I don't see her as homophobic, but her views are still somewhat harmful

This might be a good idea. I worked with a young man who was living with his parents, and they kicked him out when they learned he was gay. He had 3 days to get out.

They went through his room and found something (he didn't say what). He came home from work on Thursday, and was told to be gone by Sunday.

Please be safe. And you can come here anytime if you want to talk.

Sometimes I don't understand people. You're supposed to love your child no matter what.
Hearing that a lot of people get kicked out just for being gay or bi always hurts my heart.

I will forever be grateful that my parents always told my brothers and I that as long as we were happy, that was all that mattered to them.

I'm gonna just throw my two cents in on these quotes altogether. (Also Hi all, sorry I was gone for a bit, been busy lol). So I'm dealing with some of this crap right now by way of my boyfriend. He's bi, and not out to his family or at work. His little brother is the only one that knows and thankfully has been keeping it quiet. We talk about him coming out all the time. Not being out at work unfortunately will probably have to continue to be a thing for a very long time because he's in a trade and well... ya'll know how that can be. Even though I'm sure if he found a good company that actually had an HR department that did its job he'd be fine. But I digress.

When the conversation about him coming out to his family comes up, the battle plan is always the same. Wait till he moves up here and he can get all of his stuff out of the house safely and then come out. Because we're pretty positive that he's going to be disowned... or worse. And I hate that that's something we have to make a contingency plan for.

Wow. As someone who HEAVILY advocates for the responsible (dog) breeding community, this is so strange and infuriating. On a different note, it truly frustrates me to see parents "love" their children, when in reality they only love them for as long as they are and behave the exacts same way they imagined it in their heads and dreams. Like it really makes me think, why were they parents in the first place, were they parents only because they wanted their child to accomplish the dreams they couldn't?

So I'm very much the same way in that I do advocate for responsible breeding, (And I know that for my needs I'd do better with a pup of a specific breed from a very good breeder), but I also support rescues and people's decision to rescue. But that is just ridiculous.

The only time I ever stopped talking to someone over something like that was an ex-friend who had a dog with severe separation anxiety and she was pregnant with her and her husband's first child. She was terrified that the dog was going to hurt the baby, kept going on and on about it, and the fact that they'd have to turn the dog's room (aka her comfort zone basically) into the nursery, and that that would probably cause all these problems, etc. etc. So she surrendered/rehomed/got rid of the dog she'd had for YEARS! YEARS!! And then right after the baby is born I see her with some brand new, clearly very expensive, purebred terrier something or other. And I just. I was done.

But again, this was a former friend, not a family member! We don't go disowning people willy-nilly! Wtf???

Gets off soap box

In other less upsetting news, I'm officially 29 years old today!

 

[JacinLarkwell]

So I'm very much the same way in that I do advocate for responsible breeding,

I'm the same way.

 

[JacinLarkwell]

In other less upsetting news, I'm officially 29 years old today!

Happy birthday, birthday neighbor

 

[fluffycrow]

I'm gonna just throw my two cents in on these quotes altogether. (Also Hi all, sorry I was gone for a bit, been busy lol). So I'm dealing with some of this crap right now by way of my boyfriend. He's bi, and not out to his family or at work. His little brother is the only one that knows and thankfully has been keeping it quiet. We talk about him coming out all the time. Not being out at work unfortunately will probably have to continue to be a thing for a very long time because he's in a trade and well... ya'll know how that can be. Even though I'm sure if he found a good company that actually had an HR department that did its job he'd be fine. But I digress.

When the conversation about him coming out to his family comes up, the battle plan is always the same. Wait till he moves up here and he can get all of his stuff out of the house safely and then come out. Because we're pretty positive that he's going to be disowned... or worse. And I hate that that's something we have to make a contingency plan for.




So I'm very much the same way in that I do advocate for responsible breeding, (And I know that for my needs I'd do better with a pup of a specific breed from a very good breeder), but I also support rescues and people's decision to rescue. But that is just ridiculous.

The only time I ever stopped talking to someone over something like that was an ex-friend who had a dog with severe separation anxiety and she was pregnant with her and her husband's first child. She was terrified that the dog was going to hurt the baby, kept going on and on about it, and the fact that they'd have to turn the dog's room (aka her comfort zone basically) into the nursery, and that that would probably cause all these problems, etc. etc. So she surrendered/rehomed/got rid of the dog she'd had for YEARS! YEARS!! And then right after the baby is born I see her with some brand new, clearly very expensive, purebred terrier something or other. And I just. I was done.

But again, this was a former friend, not a family member! We don't go disowning people willy-nilly! Wtf???

Gets off soap box

In other less upsetting news, I'm officially 29 years old today!

Congrats on your birthday first and foremost! I feel the same way about the dog thing. Responsible breeding and ethical breeders are the only type of breeding I advocate for(might do a rant later, tell me if you'd like to hear that) and of course rescues and rescuing is very important as well! Just like you, I'm only probably going to have responsibly bred pure breds in my house, mostly because I'd like to try showing in the future, plus because I'd also like to be a responsible breeder myself (one day) but the latter is way to far into the future to be set in stone. I'm also totally open and would like to foster, though with my beliefs I doubt I could do it with a rescue group. Hope you and your partner get things in a place where you both feel safe and comfortable! Wow, it really puts things into perspective when you say it out loud, doesn't it?

 

[JacinLarkwell]

I'm excited for when I don't have to mute myself around my family as much. My mom and brother already know practically everything (even mentioned cupiosexuality to my mother, to which she once again lamented 'there's too many lables' ), but my dad and everyone else either only know I'm Bi, or think I'm still just going through a phase. Dad isn't as tolerant about going against the norm, so it's still hush hush for everything right now, but he also isn't as grumbly when I wear pride stuff now.