LGBTQ+ Poultry Keepers

[Sally PB]

I'm sorry.

 

[TwoCrows]

We took Moses to the emergency vet and he ended up passing away. They did attempt CPR but he never came back. He would have been 16 later around summer.
We got to sit with him before we took him home.

I am sorry you lost Moses, it's always hard on the heart when they pass away.

 

[KikiDeAnime]

Thank you everyone.
It's been hard adjusting. I keep having to remind myself he's gone whenever I go into the bathroom he had been sleeping in.

My dad surprised us by saying that if in the future if we wanted to, we could go look at the cats at the Humane Society. He also said he truthfully doesn't want more pets in the house but would consider us getting another cat.
Technically Moses was my younger brother's cat so it would be up to him if we do.

My dad is also planning on engraving a stone for Moses. When he does, I'll share photos.

 

[allosaurusrock]

Finally going to get to see my flock again tomorrow. I injured my ankle a few weeks ago, so I’ve been in bed a lot.

 

[TwoCrows]

Finally going to get to see my flock again tomorrow. I injured my ankle a few weeks ago, so I’ve been in bed a lot.

Take care of that ankle!

 

[fluffycrow]

Finally going to get to see my flock again tomorrow. I injured my ankle a few weeks ago, so I’ve been in bed a lot.

Hope all the birds look great tomorrow. They will have surely missed you!

Take care of that ankle!

Yes! Don’t put too much weight on it!

 

[KikiDeAnime]

So I have a question because I'm hoping for some feedback. I feel like next month would be fine to start looking into adopting a new cat for my family but I've been told that would be wrong so soon after Moses passing away.
I told them it would be providing a home for a cat who was either abandoned or hasn't had a home yet.

Would it be wrong?

 

[fluffycrow]

So I have a question because I'm hoping for some feedback. I feel like next month would be fine to start looking into adopting a new cat for my family but I've been told that would be wrong so soon after Moses passing away.
I told them it would be providing a home for a cat who was either abandoned or hasn't had a home yet.

Would it be wrong?

Everyone processes grief differently. No one can really tell you how, or for how long you should grieve. Getting a new animal shortly after the passing of a beloved pet does not mean one is done grieving.

Is the rest of your family on board? They might not want a new companion just yet.

Did this come from someone you know, or the rescue itself?
I do understand why a rescue would be hesitant to adopt out an animal that would go to a home that is still grieving. Grief can be weird, and it can be paired with emotional instability.
It’s easy to understand their perspective from this point of view. They could view this adoption as a “whim” (which it isn’t), which would leave the new cat in an awkward spot if the new owners regret the decision later.
Here is where an honest conversation would help. Hear what the rescue has to say, and respond with how you feel. Whatever the final decision, the wellbeing of the cat is the top priority for both of you.
Big rescues might be less lenient here. They have a lot of applicants daily, so their vetting process might be quite unforgiving, if not unfair.

I see nothing wrong with you wanting to adopt another cat

 

[KikiDeAnime]

Everyone processes grief differently. No one can really tell you how, or for how long you should grieve. Getting a new animal shortly after the passing of a beloved pet does not mean one is done grieving.

Is the rest of your family on board? They might not want a new companion just yet.

Did this come from someone you know, or the rescue itself?
I do understand why a rescue would be hesitant to adopt out an animal that would go to a home that is still grieving. Grief can be weird, and it can be paired with emotional instability.
It’s easy to understand their perspective from this point of view. They could view this adoption as a “whim” (which it isn’t), which would leave the new cat in an awkward spot if the new owners regret the decision later.
Here is where an honest conversation would help. Hear what the rescue has to say, and respond with how you feel. Whatever the final decision, the wellbeing of the cat is the top priority for both of you.
Big rescues might be less lenient here. They have a lot of applicants daily, so their vetting process might be quite unforgiving, if not unfair.

I see nothing wrong with you wanting to adopt another cat

We'd be getting the cat from the Humane Society. We haven't contacted them at all.
Family wants to wait which is why I was hoping for feedback on if what I'm wanting is wrong.
Because if it's wrong then I'll just not bring it up again and forget I wanted to

 

[Sally PB]

Talk to your family. How long do they want to wait?

Adopting an animal is a commitment, and you seem ready to make that.