Life is changing for us, and it is not for a positive reason

[debilorrah]

Ooh a cyst? Like a ganglion cyst? (I've got one.)

Yes I had one too on my shin. When it was removed, the danged thing had legs that grew onto my shin bone!!!!! They biopsied the skin around it because it keeps changing color. I am not worried though, why I do not know!

 

[Lothiriel]

Eew... It had legs?? Gosh... I hope mine doesn't.... I'm getting it removed on the 17th. o_o

 

[debilorrah]

Eew... It had legs?? Gosh... I hope mine doesn't.... I'm getting it removed on the 17th. o_o

I can honestly tell you I never felt a thing and it didn't hurt afterwards either. It was just a relief to have the HUGE bump gone.

I am just trusting God with Ken's bump. It's all I can do at this point. If I worry any more I am gonna be in the hospital.

 

[Daddas1Punkin]

Today was.... interesting. Ken had a biopsy on a lump on his hand and then we went to the County hospital. We have to go there to get his Rx's filled for no cost. I am not complaining!!! That hospital saved Glen's life. I had never been there before and that place is ENORMOUS!!!!! The lobby is like a 6 lane highway in marble.

So, I said "County" facility, right? Where the broke get their rx's for free. Well let me tell you all, I have never seen a bigger crowd of degenerate, dirty, crazy, just not right people in my entire life. I mean not even on skid row down in LA. If they weren't nuts or filthy, they dressed like they are on their way to mardi gras.

Ken fit right in. He forgot his teeth.

That's funny!

 

[Lothiriel]

Quote: That's good to know.

You are both still in my prayers.

 

[sfw2]

Just checking in to catch up, Debi.

 

[debilorrah]

Well today the poop hit the proverbial fan. I posted to Ken on FB a picture that said "No need to visit me after I die, I needed you when I was alive." Why did I do this? Because after one son promised to come help unload the truck after going to the feed store, he informed his father "I have my own life now ya know" and never showed up which left Ken out there doing it himself. 3 bales of hay and 200 lbs of feed took him an hour - it would have taken the boy 5-10 minutes.

His daughter in Florida (she is HIS daughter tonight) got incredibly butt hurt over the picture. Guilty much? Ken told them ALL it never would have been posted if we could get the three boys to offer 10 minutes a week for their dad!

DIL posts "He can do your housework if you raise his son, run his errands and pay his bills". HOUSEWORK???? We need someone to unload the truck twice a month and mow the lawn twice a month. Never mind! We will figure it out ourselves. I need to start lifting weights so I have the guns to lift those bales. 110 lbs is not something I can do right now. Last time I rolled them outta the truck into a wheel barrow

That was comedy.

Sunday they were all supposed to come over to help with the coop. Kenny had to work, ok that is forgiven. Brandon was late. Who shows up? The one dude that is not his blood child but our daughters fiance.

 

[BusyBlonde]

So sad that they are being so incredibly selfish and self-absorbed, but we have seen the same thing with one of my FIL's biological sons. When FIL was diagnosed with esophageal cancer, his son (who supposedly moved to NC from MD to be 'closer' to his Dad) came twice to the hospital (FIL was in the hospital twice for a total of nearly 2 months), and hasn't come to their home or invited them to his in over a year - he's too busy and can't make the time. His son has lived here for nearly four years, and they probably haven't seen him & his family more than a dozen times, really sad because Nan & Pop adore their grandchildren and don't really have a relationship with those two grandkids. They live 40 minutes away.

His daughter, who moved nearby around a year ago, won't come over either. She would want to come over to get away from her mom for a few days (and she is in her 40's), but only wanted to get drunk, download carp to their computer, and they caught her stealing their medications. She got insulted that they set boundaries, and has only spoken with them once in over 6 months.

We are fortunate to live next door to my in-laws, and treasure the time we have with them. I mow their yard. DH & I help with whatever they need around the house. DH is FIL's stepson, but you'd never know it. Pop is his DAD, period. And if it's at all possible, I love him just as much as my DH does, so blood doesn't always matter. Good for your daughter's fiance for stepping up, shows HIS character.

I hope they realize how fast time goes by. I lost my Dad 20 years ago, to a sudden heart attack. He was only 48. We had a great relationship, so I don't have regrets that I should have done 'more'. I am saddened by those who DO know when their loved ones have been told they're on limited time, and don't take every opportunity to show them how much they are loved and cherished. I am sorry you both have to go through this feeling abandoned by your children.

 

[debilorrah]

I think it may be time for a grief counselor for myself - maybe this is common for kids to do this. Pull away so they won't miss him so much when his time comes? I don't get it and it has REALLY upset Ken.

 

[Funky Feathers]

So sorry, Debi, but that is exactly it. I was once that kid. They do pull away b/c it is too hard to face. When I was 17 and my dad was dying of Lung Cancer what did I do? Support my poor mom? And him? Noooo, I ran away from home- 3 times! The Police caught me after a few days and brought me back each time. I ran away b/c I could not face what was happening. I loved my dad. It is just so hard to lose your dad at that age. I drank myself into oblivion immediately following his funeral, and never went through the proper grieving process. It was wrong and it still haunts me today, I often have dreams about my dad, and what I would have said to him if I'd had the chance. Just to tell him I loved him. I hope your kids don't end up with the same regrets. Maybe it would help them to read my post.