Nothing to add to your 22 selectoin, but if you have a 9... maybe there is something you can change in your grip or stance so you can actually use it? It will have much more stopping power than a .22.
I "regularly," meaning at the range, shoot a Springfield XD9 sub compact and XD45 compact, with regular loads... and although they kick, especially with their short barrels, neither are uncontrollable if you hold them right. I've even shot them with one hand for fun just to see and as long as it is lined up with my arm, I can still get the target without much of a flip on my wrist at all. I'm not that big of a person either. I'm just a short 5'2" Asian female. If I can shoot at 45 with speer gold dots with one hand and still hit my 8x11 paper target for all 13 rounds at 30yards... I'm sure you can handle a 9mm.
I like this site, it has good info for female conceal carry.
http://www.corneredcat.com/TOC.aspx
I "regularly," meaning at the range, shoot a Springfield XD9 sub compact and XD45 compact, with regular loads... and although they kick, especially with their short barrels, neither are uncontrollable if you hold them right. I've even shot them with one hand for fun just to see and as long as it is lined up with my arm, I can still get the target without much of a flip on my wrist at all. I'm not that big of a person either. I'm just a short 5'2" Asian female. If I can shoot at 45 with speer gold dots with one hand and still hit my 8x11 paper target for all 13 rounds at 30yards... I'm sure you can handle a 9mm.
I like this site, it has good info for female conceal carry.
http://www.corneredcat.com/TOC.aspx