Looking for support

[harleyjo]

I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs.

 

[Knock Kneed Hen]

I'm sorry for your loss. I won't pretend to know the pain you're feeling. As mentioned before, people say all sorts of stupid things because they are at a loss for words. . . and some people just don't think. I have an 80 year old friend who, to this day, cannot speak of the death of her unborn child, also at 5 months, without becoming emotional and tearing up. Like I said, I can't imagine it, I can only send you and your family my heartfelt condolences.

 

[chixie]

I am so sorry for your loss and I know their is nothing i can say to make it better.I am here for you if you need to talk. I will keep you and your family in my prayes. hugs

 

[SallyF]

I lost my first, stillbirth at 7 months, probably due to my OB's malpractice. That was thirty-five years ago, and the memory is still painful, although time does ease some of the pain. I firmly believe that it is NOT God's plan, that there is no understandable reason for this. It is incredibly painful experience, and once you have come through this fire, you will have the ability to feel the pain of those who suffer the same loss. Know that you did not do anything to cause this to happen; it's just a painful part of life that happens to some. Acknowledge the pain and the grief and ignore the people who tell you to "move on." Unless they have walked in these shoes, they don't and can't understand.

You and your DH need to recognize that this is one of the things that can tear a couple apart; be careful to let each other deal with the pain in whatever way is most comfortable for them. Each of you be kind to yourself and to each other. My sympathy and prayers are with you.

 

[babylady4]

I wanted to punch people when they said to me it was 'God's plan.'

I am so sorry.

You need time to heal.

You, your hubby and your little girl need to support each other and spend time together.

Eventually it does get better.

Take all the time you need to grieve.

BIG

!

 

[herefordlovinglady]

This thread proves to me how priceless BYC is. You have not only received many prayers for your strength, but you have come in contact with other women who can empathize with you and give you strength through knowing what you are going through.

God Bless you and your family and all of you other women who have had to suffer the loss of a child. I was never able to have children, and to this day (50 years old) it hurts my heart to hold a baby or to see one born, I rejoice in the life and cry for the death of a child.

 

[Chic-n-farmer]

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I am sorry. Yours is a whole different world of sorrow. I know how much it hurt in the 13 years between my first son dying and my second son being born, how it hurt to see babies and pregnancies. Even now, with two wonderful kids, the loss of my two boys makes my heart break all over again when I see or think of babies. You must be a very strong woman and I wish you the best.

 

[equine623]

When I posted this yesterday I was feeling so dark and hopeless and honestly it has helped to read everyone's supportive thoughts and prayers. So please know how much I appreciate you all taking the time to answer my post, and give me a little hope.

back to everyone. Thanks again.