Well, I've just lost another friend for being judgmental. She has a new boyfriend who I know all too well. She asked me about him, without telling me he was her new SO. Some years ago he and a friend of his wished to embark on some questionable Asian tourism; I doubt I need to elaborate other than it involves extreme abuse of others. I was shocked and appalled. I haven't been around him much since then. She was angry that I was bothered by that, told me I am "judgmental" and suggested I was somehow slandering his character by bringing this up. Unfortunately, just the thought of what the two of them planned to do makes me nauseous. I don't think he ever actually did so, but the casualness of the discussion of the matter left me very shaken. I hate living in California. Seriously.