Manners pet peeve's

[WriterofWords]

Let's see,, do I chime in as a parent, a teacher, or just as me lol! I hate it when kids think that teachers are all Hey Mister or Hey Miss, they don't even bother to use our names, so I don't bother to answer them. I don't accept "yeah" instead of "yes" and I expect parents to be polite, and speak to me as an educated adult, not as an illiterate idiot. I teach manners in my classroom and the kids always get compliments on their behavior.
My son is very polite and would not dream of walking through a door in front of an elder, or letting the door close on anyone behind him. He holds chair, doors, bags, and says yes or no and addresses non-close adults as Mr. Mrs. Ms. or whatever their title is. Now that he is 18 he has more leeway but still practices manners.
I would not dream of chewing food with my mouth open, putting my elbows on the table, or reaching in front of someone to get something on the other side of them.
The National Anthem and Pledge,, If you don't like this country there are plenty you move to. If you don't have respect for the flag then I don't have respect for you. No it's not just a piece of cloth it is a symbol of a hard-won freedom that many lives paid for to give YOU the freedom to choose to be disrespectful to it. It gives YOU the freedom to CHOOSE your religion, and PRACTICE YOUR religion, and just too many versions of the bible have been written to suit the religion that made the changes. I can rewrite it too,, and you wouldn't like it much, but I have the freedom to do it. There is not one person on this Earth today that was here when that book was written, so you can't tell me what it says and what it means.

 

[piecemaker]

I agree with the bad manners the kids and some adults have now days.

I have to brag for a second (yes I know you should not brag) my DD has 2 of the bested mannered girls I have seen in a long time.The 7 year old was awarded both Bested Mannered and the Politest Student recently. They normally award one student for each grade she got the award for the whole school (pre k- 8th grade) The 10 year old got Most Helpful to Others. Both also got all A's again. Ok brag over.

I think it is very unfair that some parents think teachers should teach manners to their kids along with every thing else they have to teach. Manners start from day one and at home. But of course the parent has to set the example for their child. It just takes a split second to remind a child to use their manners. My DH will get on to me when I see a rude child and remind them to use their manners.

Off my soap box

piecemaker

 

[Cindiloohoo]

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One hundred percent agree!! It is not up to the teacher!! We should be gracious enough to our teachers in this society to not send them a bunch of spoiled, disgusting, children to have to deal with all day long, and same to society itself. If my kid acted like some I see in public they'd be grounded till they turn 18.....if they survived that long. I just can't stand it, and a lot of adults are no better than the children. I love my country and my ancestors fought in the wars that have made it easier for us. I feel it would be a disservice to them to not salute the flag they fought so hard to preserve. Yes God comes first, then family, and then my country, for which I am immensely grateful!!!!!! Could you imagine life without our soldier's sacrifices?? YES we owe them thanks, and undying respect, and I feel it is shown by saluting. It is not the same as worshipping the Caesar or the Pharaoh, it is simply love of country IMO. To me it is as basic as saying Thank You and who wouldn't or shouldn't that enjoy our freedom's?

 

[GlitterBug]

OK, this may sound silly to others, but one of my difficulties with bad manners is when people kick the back of your chair, run into you without saying "Excuse me." And "snapping" gum while chewing it. My child has taken up this last bad habit lately & we are definitely working on it!

I am done now, but I am sure I will think of more later tonight while I am trying to sleep. LOL

 

[Cindiloohoo]

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Not silly at all! I spent the beter part of a 3 hour concert last month being kicked in the back by several young boys ranging in age from 5 to 9. Their dad or guardian spent the entire time texting and would lean over and loudly ask DO YOU GUYS WANNA GO HOME?!?! I was so tempted several times to scream back in his face YESSSSSSSS THEY WANNA GO HOME!!!!

But...I did refrain, because I do have some decency!!!

 

[Opa]

I never tried to be a friend to my sons. I was their father and it was my responsiblity to see that they were well fed, well educated, and well mannered. They had a good life growing up and I had a wonderful time raising them. Now that they are as old or older than most of you, I enjoy them even more; and yes they are my friends. I am no longer responsible for them ,but teaching them values, responsibility, conduct, and manners has resulted in them becoming the kind of people you like to have as friends. Be a parent the friendship will come.

 

[ranchhand]

I agree with ALL previous posters! I was raised by parents who would snag you by the ear in a second for bad or rude behaviour. And you never messed with Grandmother Lucy!

I am increasingly put off by online manners, or lack thereof, these days. I would never post about anyone's bodily functions and wish others wouldn't either. Some of the detailed descriptions I see online shock and nauseate me, have the posters no self respect?

If you wouldn't say it in front of your grandmother or someone else you respect, then don't post it online for the world to see.

 

[Cindiloohoo]

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Good point! I agree the same courtesy should be applied online as well.

 

[TennesseeTruly]

Manners wasn't just a southern thing either. My mother would have tanned our hides if we didn't use our manners and I use them today all the time. Now that I'm in the south, I find I fit in more.

But I agree with you.

Laurie

 

[MagsC]

How about people who are always interupting when others are talking? I think that is very rude, my parents would be appalled if we did something like that.