Marriage - How did you know he/she was the one?

[Katy]

We've been married 35 years last December. We were together 10 months before we got married.

The first time I met him I knew he was the one I was going to marry.

 

[coffeemama]

Well I haven't been married as long as some of these peeps. I was married once before my sweet dh for 2 years-together 5yrs before marriage.

My dh and I were together for 2 years before marriage-now we've been married 5yrs. I knew he was the one because we could talk about anything, he was caring and kind, a huge variety of reasons really.

My advise is to talk about everything before you get married. Kids, religion, careers, where you want to live, what you think is important in life, ect. I know so many people who wait until after they are married only to find out one parent is adamantly against spanking and the other thinks it's the only way to go. Or one thinks spending time with family is more important than money, and the other thinks you don't care about your family unless they don't want for anything material.


I know for my marriage communication has been the key to our happiness.

 

[ranchhand]

No records being shattered here. We met and dated a while in gasp! 1974. Butted heads constantly, but became close friends eventually. Didn't get married until we had both "been around the block" a few times. By then, it was 2002! Made our mothers VERY happy at last!

After being friends for so long, it was easy to fall in love all over again.

 

[Jameberlin]

We've been together for 7 years, married for 1... I don't know that i ever had a revelation that he was "the one", but since we started dating, i could never be without him. We broke up here and there (we were 17 & 18 then) but always just came back together like nothing ever happened.

He's the only person i ever felt i could be myself around, laughing at farts, playing video games, dancing randomly and singing show tunes.. among others... things most of my friends never saw me do.

It really cemented everything though, when DS was born, DH is the best dad any kid could ask for.

 

[fowltemptress]

I knew mine was the one when we were out on a date and he asked, "Why do women wear make up? It makes them look ugly."

 

[Andora]

I met my DH when we had just turned 16. (Our birthdays are 1 day apart!) It was at a party, he walked in and we saw each other and he came over and sat next to me on the couch. We got married when we were 19, in 2006. It hasn't been easy, at all, being young and poor and just starting out in life. But we've gotten through it.

My advice would be if you are having any trouble at all communicating, even over petty things like household chores, then go see a marriage counselor. It will help SO much just to talk to someone who is there to listen and see both sides. They will also help you grow closer as a couple because of the tools they share with you for communicating better.

 

[HennysMom]

20 years... and I knew from the moment I saw him...he just didnt know it then LOL!

I was 19 - he was 23 soon to be 24....

everyone said it wouldnt last more than a year... here we are 20 years later still going strong and I love him more with each passing day.

 

[lnm03]

My DH & I have been together for almost 11 years Married for 6 years in July. I was 17 and he was 22 when we met. We had alot of break ups in our dating relationship but somehow ALWAYS found our way back to each other! We still have some ups and downs but we work through them together.

Advice? I would say talk about EVERYTHING communication is Key to a solid relationship. NO lies or secrets from one another! Be there for one another no matter what.

 

[Sammysmom]

As many have said here, I knew halfway through our first date that this was the man for me. We just talked and talked and we seemed to have the same take on every subject we discussed. Being with him felt like I had been traveling for a long time and was now finally home again. That's the best way I can think of to describe it. We dated for two years before we married. We have been through a lot of good times and a lot of bad times. We celebrate the good times and cling to each other during the bad times. And we always say "I love you" to each other several times a day. We just celebrated our 22nd year of marriage on Feb. 28th.

 

[sundance]

I met DH back in High school, dated for over a year and Aug will be married 56 years. He is still my best friend, and we discuss everthing.Sometimes its gets sorta loud, He's American Indian and I'm Irish but to me, He's still perfect. somebody asked me years ago how I put up with him so long and I just answered" you can't improve on perfection" they just walked away. marrie