We do ours together, my husband and I. I hold he chops. He has to mentally prepare every time he has a head on the block. I hold the bird until the flapping is over. I feel that somehow I owe it to the bird. I have found that without a killing cone (I don't plan to buy one either) a modified hold where I hold a wing tip and a thigh in each hand (almost like hog tying) it is easier to stop the flinging and splaying that can happen as they first bleed out. Once it is over I hang them to rest for about an hour before we move to the next step in processing. I can't say it gets easier every time but you do set your mind to the task, put on your 'game face' and do what has to be done. I try to think of all sorts of things while I work along side my husband. I think about new knives, or recipes, or I try to memorize how things are connected and how the varying organs are positioned. In the right mind set I have to say I have learned more about chickens in the processing of them than any other way I have garnered knowledge.