MIL rant/question

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  1. I have WHAT in my yard?

    I have WHAT in my yard? Chillin' With My Peeps

    Jun 24, 2008
    Eggberg, PA
    I am not sure how to proceed next with this latest bizarro incident in the alternate reality in which my MIL lives. So I could use some perspective.

    MIL and niece share a dog (long strange tale) they live together. They were leaving to go away for three days and asked me to handle their animals: 15 chickens , 9 rabbits, 3 ferrets, 2 turtles, 2 cats, one snake and one dog. They thought dog should come stay with us. This dog and my dog do not get along all that well but have managed to tolerate each other in the past.

    First night dog sits and stares at the door niece left from. So I cannot be clear when it needs to go out. I took it out several times, always on a leash because it would try to head home. They go to bed late and I do not. By midnight the dog started to howl. I got up and took it out.
    At 2 AM the dog howled again I got up and took it out. It stared in the direction of home. DD felt so sorry for it she put a sleeping bag in the living room to sleep with the dog.
    At 3 AM the dog would not stop howling. I sat on the floor and cuddled and pet the dog until it seemed calm.
    At 4 AM I heard noises from downstairs and went down to find the trash all through the house, kitchen trash from kitchen through dining room and into living room. (DD slept through this)
    I got back to bed at 5 AM.

    At 6 AM dog howled again. I gave up and got up.

    That day the dog was not too bad. It wasn't happy but who was??

    That night the dog seemed calmer. It got into a different trash can. (My dog only goes for food, this dog went for anything, no one warned me of this.)
    But, after another midnight howl and walk it went to sleep in DDs room. I thought we were through the worst.

    IN the AM we discovered that the dog had peed on DDs clothes.
    Oh, well.
    Mid afternoon, the two dogs, who had been getting along fine, suddenly erupted into nasty fight. I did not see how it started. I tried to get my dog away, my kids were screaming and crying. I separated the dogs and started to pick mine dog up just to get her out of the fight (she weighs 55 lbs) Just as I got her front legs off the ground the other dog lunged up and sank her teeth into my dogs haunch drawing blood immediately. Kids freak! I start kicking at the dog to push it away. It lets go and I throw my dog outside.
    Kids are still freaking.
    I get the other dog on a leash and lead it home. I check it for injuries. It has a cut on one ear. I treat the cut. Leave it fresh food and water and go home. Shaking.

    I check my dog she is bleeding from two places and seems shaken but overall OK. Check kids - hysterical and confused.

    MIL and niece come home later that day. I had texted niece what had happened. So she knew.
    Went to go over to talk to MIL and ran into the extended family. We chatted I told them the story. I thought it was over. I was somewhat shaken but it was over no harm no foul.

    The next day MIL says her dog is sick and was so sick all night she thought it was dying. I don't know what she's talking about and she isn't looking at me so I don't get the idea there is anything really wrong. She said the dog was acting funny. Well, I assumed she had heard the story and I did not retell it. And all dogs will act up when you leave them and then come home.

    So I let it go. But, niece comes over and tells me they were told by others that i said I had kicked the dog really really hard. And that the dog probably had internal injuries because I beat it.
    WHAT?!?! [​IMG]

    I asked her if they honestly thought I would beat their dog even if it had attacked mine and she said, "I don't know." [​IMG]

    I was really hurt. Neither of them ever asked me directly what happened. Neither of them ever called me and said the dog seems sick did anything happen.

    I told niece what happened and that I was really hurt that they would think I would have beaten the dog to the point of injury. (If it had gotten that bad from the fight I would have called them!)

    DH says I should just drop it as a bad communication and more craziness from MIL.

    Last I heard the dog was fine.

    I am still hurt and angry. Angry at the person who reworded the tale, angry at them both for not asking me..........

    Drop it, or say something? And if I say something what do I say?
     
  2. KellyHM

    KellyHM Overrun With Chickens

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    If I were you I would tell them my version of the story, if for no other reason than to get it off my chest. If you don't feel like they'll listen, write it down and give it to them that way. Like I said, it's more for your benefit than to appease them. And I would NOT be pet sitting for them again in the future...period.
     
  3. darkmatter

    darkmatter Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Feed the MIL's dog exlax every chance you to get to visit. Or barring that, anything with a lot of gease/lard in it.
     
  4. cluckcluck42

    cluckcluck42 Chillin' With My Peeps

    Oct 4, 2009
    Quebec
    I'm glad my MIL lives far away. I could not deal with that type of crazy. I say drop it and ignore her for a good while.
     
  5. PineappleMama

    PineappleMama Chillin' With My Peeps

    I like the written statement idea... with a copy for your records.

    Pics of YOUR dog's injuries too.

    And i would include in your statement that you will not be available for petsitting in the future for the protection of your animals and your property (ala house, clothes, etc getting trashed), and for the kids well being since they were extremely distraught by this whole mess... not to mention for the sake of continued familial harmony between the houses.

    [​IMG] for y'all and [​IMG] to the liar and the two people dumb enough to believe them.
     
  6. sourland

    sourland Broody Magician Premium Member

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    Drop it! It's just human nature that you are dealing with. Don't take that dog into your home again. That's the lesson learned here,
     
  7. HarlansHollowFarms

    HarlansHollowFarms bana-bhuidseach anns gára

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    Drop it.
    It sounds like you know you MIL well enough to know it would not matter what you said to her, she will continue to believe what she thinks is the truth.
    Save your sanity for those who deserve it!
     
    Last edited: Aug 19, 2010
  8. sunnychooks

    sunnychooks Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Why doesn't DH handle this? It's his mother. You were accused of doing something you didn't do. Becasue you're so upset (and rightfully so) he needs to step in on your behalf.
    And no more pet sitting for her.
     
  9. I have WHAT in my yard?

    I have WHAT in my yard? Chillin' With My Peeps

    Jun 24, 2008
    Eggberg, PA
    Quote:Sunny DH apparently agreed with you. By time I got back this afternoon he had apparently given MIL a piece of his mind about not giving me the benefit of the doubt. At this point everyone is backpedaling their stories except for me......

    HarlansHollaw you were also right. She's a few cards short of a full deck, bless her heart [​IMG]
     
  10. 1_FnkyFrm

    1_FnkyFrm Chillin' With My Peeps

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    Did you think it might be something it eat out of the trash is whats making it sick....
     

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