I used to get grounded from reading too.
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I love this. No one gets hurt, but everyone gets the message.
In January of this year our daughter told us she was going to wake up the next morning and be a grown up. She wanted to make her own choices because she was tired of the ones we gave her: read a book or go to bed, for example. She was very demanding for things at the store or even going to the store. I decided to treat her like a grown up for a few days.
Every time she was hungry I said, "There's the fridge, make yourself something to eat. Grown-ups make their own choices on what to feed themselves. But make sure you use only the groceries that you bought, because grown-ups make their own choices on what to buy at the store. And make sure you use your own money to buy the groceries, because grown-ups make their own choices on what job they have to make money, etc." I told her that she didn't have to put away the clean flatwear from the dishwasher anymore. She was thrilled. And then I said that grown-ups put ALL of the dishes away! For five days I did this over every little thing, telling her what choice she'd have to make as a grown-up. She finally said, "Mom, I made a mistake, I don't want to be a grown-up." I thought 5 days was a long time before she gave this up, but she did.
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My girlfriend is getting tired of the sibling rivalry between her boys. They both want to be only children. I told her to treat them like only children for a week: Instead of sharing chores, one of them gets to do all of the chores. I suggested that she double the amount of time she double checks on him - homework done? Chores done right? Appropriate e-mail content. Browser history. Calling the teacher.
He's also not involved in any extracurricular activities, and I said I'd sign him up for a few things because if you only have one child you only get one shot to have a piano player or soccer star. And I'd make him do a bunch of volunteer work because only children think they are the center of the world.
She hasn't done this yet, but she's working on a plan to do so.