My 4 year old said a 4 letter word... RANT

[Hoosiermomma]

I have always taught my kids about curse words and that they are not allowed to say them. My husband doesn't really curse, except when he is really angry but wherever you go nowadays, that type of language is everywhere. If I do hear my kids saying anything inappropriate they get a warning and if I hear it a second time they get hotsauce, (but mine are older than yours).

You could just explain to yours that certain words are inappropriate and they should never say them. If they do there will be consequences.
I would also suggest talking to your dh again. He has to respect you and your kids enough to really make a concentrated effort to stop. As not only an adult, but also the stepdad to your kids, he shouldn't be speaking like that anyway. There's no excuse for it.
Good luck!

 

[sparkles2307]

So, this is that thing my uncle told me about when I had my first son? The part where parenting gets hard? I have ahd the easiest 5 years in the history of parenting with my kids...I should have known that school age was when we would have to learn about privates and cussing...

I will try just trying to get the point across to them that grown ups can say things that kids can't, even if the grown ups shouldnt say them. I just grew up in such a conservative home...I never heard a cuss word in person (not on tv) until I was about 12 years old...and if one of the boys pops one off around my mother, well, it will be bad. Like, "is that really who you want raising your kids?" kind of bad...

 

[wombat]

My cousin and her mother were talking cousin's kids to the zoo. The kids were giggling in the back seat, cousin and her mom having a conversation, when out of no where, the 3-year-old girl loudly pipes up with

YOU, GRAMMA!

Yeah, cousin's husband of the time was a construction contractor, and the kids over-heard him on the phone with his employees a lot.

15 years later, at least, and that kid still ain't right ...

 

[wombat]

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Yeah, this is when it gets hard. Teaching the kids that grownups sometimes say these things but kids shouldn't may work, but it could backfire if the kids see that DH can flaunt all the rules without care ... that can be a respect thing.

Have you talked with DH about how he wants these kids growing up?

 

[sparkles2307]

I brought it up, AGAIN, last night when he told me about the cussing. I often mention to him that he is setting an example...good or bad...thats up to him. He just doesnt get it. His 14 yo never had rules, DH took him to R movies when he was 10 years old cause he figured that the kid was gonna see nude scenes and blood and guts and cussing sometime and he might as well see it first with Dad... did I mention that I am raising a 3rd child instead of having a husband 90% of the time? He's 12 years older than me and 20 years dumber I think sometimes!

ETA: I hate making DH sound like a jerk, hes not. He's my better half, other than the temper and the cussing, he really is. He ASKED me if we could teach the kids to call him "dad" because he loved them so much he didnt want to be just a stepdad. I'd be lost without him, but I shure wouldnt miss the cussing!

 

[mzrea]

I was taught at a very young age to "Do as I say, not as I do". It's a foreign concept at first for kids, but one that pretty much the parental side of the planet lives by.

I grew up with this as well as did my son. I always told him it may not make sense now, but it will make perfect sense once he has a child!​

 

[Crusty McPottydoodle]

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I grew up with this as well as did my son. I always told him it may not make sense now, but it will make perfect sense once he has a child!

It didn't make sense to me as a child and it still doesn't.

I prefer the lead by example approach. Kids are imitators. It is how they learn.

 

[WriterofWords]

Tell them in front of their dad that they can't talk like their dad, that you want them to use polite language not gutter language. Maybe he'll watch his mouth too.

 

[Mermaid]

I always worry when kids start swearing. I remember my best friend used to have a CLEAN mouth and then it got DIRTY. It was about six months later she got pregnant and admitted to a drinking problem

 

[agnes_day]

i curse...but i have told my kids that it is an adult privilege, and that they arent allowed to even think about doing it.