My daughter's growing up and I'm not ready...

[sgtmom52]

And so it begins.....

You need to keep these around for potential dates ~ Application for Permission to Date my Daughter

Also don't forget to supply a copy of the Rules

I am a retired police officer and the favorite "joke" among my coworkers was that you should be sitting at your table cleaning your gun when the young man came to call.

I just told my daughter to make sure the young man knows that we have 6 acres and a backhoe! She is 24 years old now, living in Japan ~ now that is hard ~ when they grow up and move 1/2 way around the world and you have no idea what they are doing! I know that they grow up, but they never stop being your little girl.

 

[muddyhorse]

Start setting reasonable ground rules now. not you can date at 40 !! for us it was 16. until then I had to take my little sis. nobody tatles faster than sis. remember their frontal lobes aren't fully developed yet. That is the voice in your head that says, " Hey wait !!!! this is going to hurt, have repercussions, get me killed"

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

My daughter is also ten. And already starting to have little "issues". Ugh! I am fortunate in one odd way. I have four neices who have put their parents, us and themselves through a variety of heck for the last few years. My kids have heard all of the conversations about how we feel about how their parents are treating them and how much parenting we think they are NOT doing! So yesterday DD tells me what she knows about what things her 15 year old cousin is up to and how she is shocked that her parents do not seem to care what she is doing.

I heard her out, giving her my full attention. Then I said, so you'll remember this when you are 15 and are getting mad at me for being up in your business? You'll remember the worry and knowing that at 15 you don't really know all of what you need to know and that parent's who love and care for you will always want to know where you are and who you are with??

We stared at each other for a looooong time. She said, "yeah, I think I will remember. Her parents don't pay attention to where she is because they don't really care about her." I countered with that I think her father did but did not know how to show it.

So a bad example is helpful!!

 

[sourland]

I was the "horror" that all of my daughter's boyfriends had to meet. She actually found it rather amusing and I think regarded it as a test of their degree of interest. (She was my buddy, and I too know that boys are evil.) When the son-in-law appeared on the scene, she intervened prior to my meeting him. She said, "Dad, this guy is different. Please try not to be crude and scarey." Boy appeared at the door. Big, quiet, serious sort of guy. When they left, I said to my wife, "This one is different. He's trouble. He doesn't look like he came out of Gentleman's Quarterly. The girl is getting serious." He's not the one I would have picked for her- honestly, none were good enough for my baby. They've been married 18 years. He is a great husband and a far better father to his children than I feel I was to mine. (More involved-guess it's a generational thing.) It'll work out, but it ain't easy! A father is a father forever. I now torture this poor guy about how beautiful my 16 year old grandaughter is, and what the evil boys are thinking. Payback is h**l.

 

[Nupine]

WOW! I'm in my teens, and this all kind of scares me! I'm not going to state my age, but I'm in my mid teens. I've never had a boyfriend, or anything close to it. I'm proud of that! There is one guy I do like right now, since we have so much in common, but he's over 4 yrs old than me, and thats quite a bit.

 

[3goodeggs]

It's the little girls calling my son that gets me worried.
If I use enough duct tape, he shouldn't be leaving the house for another 15 years.

 

[chickensducks&agoose]

I was a hellion. Had scads of boys calling by the time I was 12, gettin' PG-13 by then too... my DH was even WORSE! I met him when I was 17 and he was 25, and it has worked out well, but there is NO way I'm letting my kids date for a good long time. DS has a 'girlfriend' who is 10 years older than he is... he's 7... and I said it's fine as long as they wait to 'date' until he's 20. she'll be 30, and if they still want to be together, they can do it then. As far as my girls, my oldest is 5, and she talks about kissin' and boyfriends, and makeup all day long... I am very concerned. We're going to have strict rules, and LOTS and LOTS of supervision. I say they can talk on the phone in the kitchen with me present. if they want to have a friend over they can hang out in the living room. even now, I don't let my kids hang out in a bedroom, they bring toys downstairs and play where I can see 'em... regardless of gender. Because these days, you never know! Good luck, set down those ground rules, and don't forget the power of STD photographs...

 

[Nupine]

chickensducks&agoose :

I was a hellion. Had scads of boys calling by the time I was 12, gettin' PG-13 by then too... my DH was even WORSE! I met him when I was 17 and he was 25, and it has worked out well, but there is NO way I'm letting my kids date for a good long time. DS has a 'girlfriend' who is 10 years older than he is... he's 7... and I said it's fine as long as they wait to 'date' until he's 20. she'll be 30, and if they still want to be together, they can do it then. As far as my girls, my oldest is 5, and she talks about kissin' and boyfriends, and makeup all day long... I am very concerned. We're going to have strict rules, and LOTS and LOTS of supervision. I say they can talk on the phone in the kitchen with me present. if they want to have a friend over they can hang out in the living room. even now, I don't let my kids hang out in a bedroom, they bring toys downstairs and play where I can see 'em... regardless of gender. Because these days, you never know! Good luck, set down those ground rules, and don't forget the power of STD photographs...

Your 7 yr old son has a 17 yr old girlfriend? Whoa!
I can not believe how much even young kids know these days. I was a camp counselor for 4-H camp last month. There is always a ''camp stud'' every year; a guy camp couselor all the girls adore. This year it was an 18 yr old guy named Jesse....very attractive jock. Kinda lazy though

But anyway, in our cabin there was an adorable 10 yr old girl. One the last night of camp, for about an hour she did this non stop. She would say, ''Jesse comes to our cabin to....[pause for us to try to answer]....sleep with me! She would also say the same thing with ''kiss me!'' or ''lay on my bed with his pants off!''. I think she may have just been tired, but I can't believe a 10 yr old was saying these things.​