my husband left me

[SarahBeth9394]

take your share of the bank account, have your name removed from it, and open an account in your name only. and report the credit cards missing so he can't rack up the credit cards while he figures out where to live and eats out until he does. Have his name removed from the utility accounts as well.

He was flabbergasted that he had to get out? Yep he is living in a fantasy for sure.

 

[TheJuan-n-Only]

I was there about a decade ago...and I do have a son with my ex...after I came from a deployment she gave me the great news she was living me. Shortly after I found out that she had been "talking" (ahem) with a "friend" of mine from our Army unit (only my platoon was on deployment). So needless to say I was lost, confused, angry, sad...you name it!!!! I had moved out of my country to be with her so I had no family, other than my son, and just a few friends around.

Long story short I now am a happy man with a wonderful, beutiful, awesome wife, she is the woman that I was ment to be with (and I really never beleived on those sort of things before). I have a wonderful son (with my ex), lots of friends and my DW's family is like my own (her dad and I meet for beers every Wen! lol) We have a great home with lots of animals and of course our small flock......we are very happy!!!.....and for what is worth my ex and "my friend" are married and have a kid of their own...are they happy?...who knows and who cares! lol

I know it doesn't look like it right now, and it probably wont for a while. But you will probably be better of, this was probably for the best. If he can't appreciate you for who you are and what you bring to the table I KNOW there is some one out there that will.

best of luck, best wishes and feel free to PM when ever you need to vent

 

[Gmsg01]

Don't know the age, but his mid-life crisis sounds about right. A time in life where people reflect on where they have been, what they accomplished, and where they are going. It is a "crisis" when they are dissatisfied with what they see. Unfortunately, they always seem to make it someone else fault "you didn't give me what I needed". Don't fall into that trap! We are each responsible for our own happiness, if we are unhappy, we are responsible to share this with our loved ones and seek solutions. Looks like you are already on your way to finding your solutions! He wont find his until he takes responsibility for himself, and stops making someone else's job to make him "feel fulfilled and manly"!

 

[misterhandsome]

thank you all so very much for all your insight and support.

you're awesome!

 

[JulieNKC]

Look at this as your opportunity to do better. You deserve better than that. He'll wake up someday bankrupt and alone, hopefully you'll have moved on by then and he can see what he lost.

 

[flowergirl60]

What a loser.

You're the winner in this game. He will get tired of the bimbo and you'll be living a better life without him.

 

[ChickInDelight]

You are much stronger than you realize. Finding a new home just for you and what matters most to you sounds like a delightful pursuit. I have no doubt you will hold on to all that is important.

More changes are coming, and you will weather them all just fine!

 

[joedie]

I'm so sorry to hear that. He sounds like a jerk and you'll be better off without him. Just remember when one door closes, another one opens. I've found it's usually a better one!
Do like the others advised and close the bank accounts and credit cards and call a lawyer asap! Good Luck!

 

[NewCitySong]

I have WHAT in my yard? :

YOu titled this your husband left you. And he did. And he didn't. Emotionally he left you physically you took charge of your life and being able to protect yourself from people who will hurt you and you threw his sorry behind out!

Good for you.

It sucks rotten eggs.

But, you took care of you. If he wanted to be your protector then he should be protecting you not being the one who hurts you.

When I had to leave my first husband, I called my friend one night crying so hard I could barely breathe. She told me to get a bucket of water and a scrub brush and get down on my knees and scrub my bathroom floor. I thought she was nuts, but I was desperate and willing, so I did as she asked scrubbing and crying all the while. Finally, out of tears and exhausted I called her back and said,"OK I did it I still feel horrible and my marriage is still over." She said,"Yes, but you've cried it out and you're exhausted enough to get some sleep. And better still, now you have a clean floor!"

Very wise woman! I also used to get two movies: one tear jerker chick flick and one comedy. I'd make myself a big ice cream sundae and watch the tear jerker. I'd cry and slobber in my ice cream. When it was over I would put in the comedy and finish off my sundae smiling......

Remember that when he failed you - you took care of yourself. Hang in there. Better times will come.

X2

Fantastic advice...If I'm working hard I'm upset - and yes you deserve to take care of yourself, you're worth it! The animals and the country are therapeutic to your soul...

I'm so sad this happened to you

 

[onthespot]

Sorry for your pain. Change the thread title to "I Threw Out the TRASH!"