my husband left me

[SallyF]

You're married to my brother-in-law, right? Oh no, can't be right.. he's on number three now. Maybe someday he'll figure out that it's HIS problem, not theirs. Hang tough; he's a louse!

 

[SillyChicken]

I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

I've been through the exact same thing.

Look at this as a new begining, a positive change in your life. A man like that is never committed to anyone for long. As soon as reality hits him, he's gonna realize he made a mistake. Stand strong and don't let him use you!

 

[redhen]

I bet he'll be back... crawling back, like the low down scum he is.
Oh, and dont fall for the excuse that he "wasnt getting what he needed from you".. that what master manipulaters do to shift the blame off of themselves, and screw with your head. Its an OLD mind game(cave men probably did it..

..) that REAL sickos use. DONT YOU FALL FOR IT FOR ONE MINUTE!
Remember this... even if he wasnt "getting what he needed from you".. if he TRULY loved you he would have sat you down like a REAL man and talked to you...
No... he simply found a stupid woman that strokes his little "ego"..... He wasnt thinking of you at all while he was with her and than coming home to decieve you.
Good for them.... let them live in their sick world.

I know it hurts NOW.... but trust me, you WILL be better off in the long run, than with false love in your life.
I TRULY would rather live alone... then degrade myself to live life like with that kind of person.
Stay strong... move on and MAKE your new life happy and how YOU want to live it.
So sorry

 

[ladyride]

Quote:
Wonderfully said !

 

[sonew123]

I can tell you he will be back--been there done that! he will be back asking for forgiveness-sweet as pie-wooing you and all! DO NOT GIVE IN_stick to your guns because he will do it again at the first sign of a better thing. take all of what's yours NOW!!!!! WE ARE not KIDDING....drop your name from everything and cut his name out--NOW!!!! You probably already have debt from the "mistress" and you don't even know it ..yet..get a good lawyer and stake claim to all you ARE keeping and how it WILL be case closed. I'm so sorry this happened to you but I can tell you-it does get better-and you will be so thankful you stayed strong for you--It is YOUR time now do not let go of this opportunity to put yourself on a golden pedestal expecting only the best and accepting no less!.

Besides...you can sit back and watch his pathetic NEW life unfold -crash and burn...get the wine and some girlfriends together to celebrate!

 

[nuchickontheblock]

So sorry this happened to you. It hurts like hell, but I admire your strength, that you were able to kick him out. I've had a cheating husband too, and it is bad. But after lots of troubles, I now have a wonderful life and a great husband, who is better than I could have imagined.

There will definitely be hassles and difficulties in the future. I agree with the advice to get a lawyer as soon as you can. I didn't want to "be mean" so gave in to everything he wanted in the divorce and after 3 years of crap with him, (he ended up living in our house and keeping our business -- and still having the girlfriend -- and paid me $50.00 a month child support)

I ended up having to get a lawyer again and take him back to court so I could get my half of the assets. So, please please. . . do it right the first time!

You already have shown that you can stand up for yourself! Hang in there. life will improve!

 

[Elite Silkies]

I wonder if she is okay, she hasn't posted since her first post. If she can make it through the first month, she'll be stronger than ever! Hopefully, she isn't alone and has a friend to talk to.

 

[BorderKelpie]

Wow, I remember being blindsided, too.

Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start over. I did. I have grown as a person. I am so much better for having learned (the hard way), the same way you can.

Yes, I lost the house, yes, I lost some of the pets/livestock, yes, I lost myself for a bit. I went back to school, earned another degree, I have a decent job, I own my own home (all by myself - no coming home from work to find myself homeless ever again!!). I get to decorate my home my way (hehe!). It's been 9 years, but I feel so much better. Life is still hard, but it's mine - all mine.

Do get out from under any sort of debt he will try to dump on you (wish I had known that), get a good lawyer - not mine! Figure out what you've always wanted to do and DO IT.

Try not to feel sorry for yourself (it's hard not to), think of this as a fresh start. You get to start all over, clean (ish) slate and all. It's all about you now. Congratulations! I wish you the best in your exciting new life.

And remember, the best revenge is living well - get even.

We're here for you.

 

[FrenchToast]

Sorry to hear what you are going through.

Been there many years ago, many times. Thankfully I wasn't married to any of the jerks that fooled around.
Just remember that if they do it for you they will do it to you !!! He or she will end up cheating on each other. They will never be able to trust each other that is for sure. Part of the thrill is in the chase. Now that he is available she may lose interest and he may just decide to look around some more. It is the beginning of the end for them !!! Even if they do end up together they will have to live with what they've done. As they get older it will come to haunt them.
Some story to tell the grandkids someday !!! NOT !!! This is how we met !!! Donkeyholes !!!

Yep, reality will sink in when he rolls over, sees her first thing in the morning............ before a shower, makeup and with morning breath

!!! The secret meetings will stop, they can be seen in public, boring the thrill is gone !! He will soon realize that she is just another person, not some perfect wonder woman that was placed on this earth just for him. Once a cheat always a cheat. I pitty him. He will never be able to take back what he has done no matter what. What you do affects other peoples lives, even your own !!

I truely hope you can stay strong throughout all of this. Some guys are like dirty pennys and keep coming back. Hopefully if/when he does you will have both feet firmly planted on the ground as you slam the door in his face. If you do allow him to come back into your life I wish you the best as well although speaking from tons of experience taking someone back that has betrade you is really harder to do then getting and keeping them out of your life. And more often then not you will have just wasted time in trying! But you never know. Each situation is unique as is every individual. Only you can decide.

And my last piece of advice is. The best revenge you can get is to BE HAPPY !!! because we know no matter how it looks from the outside he isn't.

 

[silky_3699]

When my dad left mum. he was such an a**. sorry. it just angers me.