My leukemia's back.

[lazy gardener]

Rachel, I feel your pain when it comes to getting needed medical care for family. It makes me want to scream some times.

 

[LittleLakePhil]

Rachel, I feel your pain when it comes to getting needed medical care for family.  It makes me want to scream some times.  

I agree.....

 

[Outpost JWB]

I'm on board for selling the silkies around Halloween! Great idea.

Rachel, I know where you are coming from on finances. . Here, I could take all the classes in the world, but if the money is not coming in, that's where the buck stops. Hubby got turned down for disability again. Lawyer says to hang in there. Lawyer is not looking at the stack of bills I have! 1/2 of my check goes for family medical insurance. But we can't afford the copays. DD hasn't been to a doctor in over 2 years. I only go to urgent care centers if I'm almost dead. Hubby has to go or they won't prescribe his meds. Makes no sense.

Have to vent somewhere, so here goes....found out Sunday dad is in icu. Has pnemonia and they don't expect him to make it. He also has diabetes, conjunctive heart failure, kidney failure, and more. I will not be going to see him. Nor will I go to the funeral. I'm not a cold person, and I have no regrets in life. My dad is abusive & step mom is delusional. They support a cousin who raped his very young daughter. By support, I mean emotional support & hand him the world on a silver platter. Every time I would go to their home after he got out of prison, the rapist was there. My daughter was 5. i told mom & dad it's me & my family, or him. They called me everything but a white woman. They chose him. I Spoke with them after that day & tried to somehow make a mends, until a little over a year ago. Came to the conclusion the relationship is just toxic. I have wasted too much time & energy trying to fix something that is so broke, it's unfixable. I burnt the bridge. It has been very freeing burning that bridge. A burnt bridge sheds a lot of light. I did check the obits this morning. Just curious. So glad my children & I don't have a relationship like that.

On a brighter note, got school shopping (scavenger hunt) done last night. DD starts school next Wed. Time to go to work. You all have a blessed day. I'm going to go help homeless people! I love my job!

 

[Leave a LightOn]

I Spoke with them after that day & tried to somehow make a mends, until a little over a year ago. Came to the conclusion the relationship is just toxic. I have wasted too much time & energy trying to fix something that is so broke, it's unfixable. I burnt the bridge. It has been very freeing burning that bridge. A burnt bridge sheds a lot of light. I did check the obits this morning. Just curious. So glad my children & I don't have a relationship like that.

On a brighter note, got school shopping (scavenger hunt) done last night. DD starts school next Wed. Time to go to work. You all have a blessed day. I'm going to go help homeless people!

I love my job!

Keep focus on the positive! You are leaving golden footprints on this earth.

 

[N F C]

Rachel, way to go hanging in there fighting for Big Boy. It's tough to do but you did as well as could possibly be done. Hope all goes well and they get to the bottom of things. Good idea on the black meat for Halloween, I think some people will really go for the idea!

JWB, sounds like you made a good call on freeing yourself from a loaded situation. You and your family...that's what's important. And if anyone dares to give you a hard time about it, feel free to use this (I have):

 

[lazy gardener]

Rachel, I know where you are coming from on finances.

. Here, I could take all the classes in the world, but if the money is not coming in, that's where the buck stops. Hubby got turned down for disability again. Lawyer says to hang in there. Lawyer is not looking at the stack of bills I have! 1/2 of my check goes for family medical insurance. But we can't afford the copays. DD hasn't been to a doctor in over 2 years. I only go to urgent care centers if I'm almost dead. Hubby has to go or they won't prescribe his meds. Makes no sense.

Have to vent somewhere, so here goes....found out Sunday dad is in icu. Has pnemonia and they don't expect him to make it. He also has diabetes, conjunctive heart failure, kidney failure, and more. I will not be going to see him. Nor will I go to the funeral. I'm not a cold person, and I have no regrets in life. My dad is abusive & step mom is delusional. They support a cousin who raped his very young daughter. By support, I mean emotional support & hand him the world on a silver platter. Every time I would go to their home after he got out of prison, the rapist was there. My daughter was 5. i told mom & dad it's me & my family, or him. They called me everything but a white woman. They chose him. I Spoke with them after that day & tried to somehow make a mends, until a little over a year ago. Came to the conclusion the relationship is just toxic. I have wasted too much time & energy trying to fix something that is so broke, it's unfixable. I burnt the bridge. It has been very freeing burning that bridge. A burnt bridge sheds a lot of light. I did check the obits this morning. Just curious. So glad my children & I don't have a relationship like that.

On a brighter note, got school shopping (scavenger hunt) done last night. DD starts school next Wed. Time to go to work. You all have a blessed day. I'm going to go help homeless people!

I love my job!

You made a wise decision re: cutting ties with family. Life is too short to deal with the emotional abuse associated with maintaining a toxic relationship.

 

[LittleLakePhil]

We moved away from bad families 35 years ago....my wife was 15 at the time. Normally getting married at 15 isn't a good thing, but in our case it was the only thing to do. We burned bridges with striking a match. Just moved away quit answering the phone just went about our business raised a family and never looked back.
My wifes mother died a year ago ....she didn't go to any services....nor did her brother or sister.....KARMA....
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Do what you got to do....then make peace with the decision.

 

[sourland]

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Do what you got to do....then make peace with the decision.

Phil, one of the best posts on this site.

 

[LittleLakePhil]

Phil, one of the best posts on this site. 

Thanks Sour....only makes sense to me.

 

[donrae]

Outpost....

Way back when, when I was a new nurse, I had a patient who was dying and some of the family would not come see him. I was horrified....he's dying,...you need to say goodbye....all that good stuff. I was so, so young and naive. Now, I'm like "too bad you were such a *******. Sucks to be you and die alone"......okay, maybe a touch too far the other way, but I'm totally with you. Why on earth would you stay in a relationship like that? And ever put your child at possible risk?

sorry about the medical thing. Keep plugging away at the disability. Think how nice the retro pay will be when he's finally approved! and then after 2 years, he's on Medicare, so much less out of pocket.

dontja just love how "affordable" healthcare really isn't?

I've got to go see my Momma and give her a hug. I was so blessed to have her, and I need to be sure to tell her in so many words.

Now we're working on prior auths for his inhaler (steroid inhaler, Symbicort or Flovent).