My leukemia's back.

[Alaskan]

looks like for $$$$ we will do direct burial and memorial after, but Mom's sister wants a funeral service. my thought is if she can foot the bill (even if she could she wouldn't) she could upgrade it. but I know she will trow a fit, likely The cops will have to be called over her or the other sibling or their kids actions. to say they are insane would insult insane people. they are the impiety of evil. At my dad's funeral (their BIL) they refused to let me be his pal bearer. her 3 brothers told me they were "more related by marriage to him than I from birth". I am not looking forward to this. just for their actions alone. her sisters have tried to make a mess of mom's and my affairs after his death and did to a certain extent. I am glad they will soon be out of my life. Sourland the thread about the phone I started that you commented on, was about me and my mom...

So sorry that you have to have family drama tossed on top of all the pain and sadness at the sudden loss of your mom.

I agree with you, if mom's sister wants to upgrade what you are doing... then she has to pay for it.

If you have to pay for and arrange everything.... then whatever you want goes.

Period.

 

[getaclue]

I agree with Al. When you are doing the paying, you get the say-so. They can attend. That's it.

 

[N F C]

Folks my mom passed away this evening unexpectedly. play for me and my family please.

I'm sorry to hear that oldrooster

I hope your extended family can behave during this tough time.

 

[oldrooster]

I will be talking to a neighbor who has worked in the local sheriffs dept. in different roles (not a deputy) and ask him how to get these creeps out of the way if they show up drunk/high or just being jerks if they show up and start acting like themselves. James Jack Jose and the king (not the one who sang blue swede shoes or fathered the prince of whales) are friends of many of them. And I don't like being around drunks at the best of times...

 

[bruceha2000]

Folks my mom passed away this evening unexpectedly. play for me and my family please.

Oh man. It is bad enough when it is expected. Much worse when it is unexpected. We will be holding you up!

looks like for $$$$ we will do direct burial and memorial after, but Mom's sister wants a funeral service. my thought is if she can foot the bill (even if she could she wouldn't) she could upgrade it.

So don't tell the family when the burial will be, just do it. Unless they have power of attorney, they have no say. It isn't like you have a relationship you need to keep 'whole'.

Really sorry your family situation is so screwed up.

 

[sourland]

Ah ha, now Al's using the (other) S word!

Me ?

Folks my mom passed away this evening unexpectedly. play for me and my family please.

 

[N F C]

Me ?

Don't cry little Sour, I was just teasing you!

 

[sourland]

Don't cry little Sour, I was just teasing you!

It's all good. I've been compared to far worse.

 

[Blooie]

Al, I don’t know what it is about funerals that bring out either the best or the worst in people. Follow your own instincts on this one. And if they get too far out of hand, we’ll send Sour and Bruce to handle things. I’ll watch. Um, did I ever mention that when it comes to family conflict I’m a certified coward? Sending love, hugs, and prayers!

 

[wyoDreamer]

Family is tough to take at times. I got lucky and mine is mostly good. I have a couple of cousins that I try to avoid, but that is nothing compared to what do many of you folks have to deal with. Prayers for you all!!