my life is gone to hell in handbasket

[Hotwings]

I can understand what you are going through. For most of us thinking a 13 year old would be sucidial is insane. It is always hard for someone in your position to treat. You are too close to really be objective to analyzing this. I think the impatient treatment is better than no treatment. The most important issue is to finding out what is wrong. Is your daughter on meds as I heard this can actually harm adolescents if they are are on anti-depressents. There is so many things on todays teen-agers plate these days, peer pressure can be overwhelming. I totally disagree that she should have the demons driven out, this is so excorist to me. I personally haven't had any experience in this but I can understand and I pray that you will always be there for your daughter and all your family. I hope what I have said doesn't harm.

 

[MS9325]

well, she sounds allot like my Older brother, except he tried to act on his suicidal tendencies by taking a bunch of pills. We found out he is extremely bipolar, and he is much better on his medications, Have you had your daughter checked for bipolar disorder.

 

[tiffanyh]

You are doing the right thing. You are being her parent right now for her safety, not her friend. You have to stay strong. It not suprising that everything else is suffering, but try to thing about it that you are just putting it on the backburner in order to take care of your daughter. She is in the right place. Your smart for taking her seriously and not just brushing it off.


Stay as strong as you can! My thoughts are with you all.

 

[JaciesCoop]

I'm so sorry for what you are going through. My youngest son's and his wife and all of us have been going through the same thing with his boy (my first grandchild) for 4 years now. He is 16 now and doing well right now but it's been hell. And it was determined by his Dr's and finally the court that his birth mother was doing him a lot of harm so she is not allowed to be around him at all now by court order. You may have to resort to this but you have to have the backing and testimony of the Dr's.
He was diagnoised as BiPolar. But like I said is doing well right now.
God Bless you and stay strong.

 

[Basia]

I am almost 40... about 25 yrs ago I was in a psych ward at a children's hospital for attempted suicide.
I can't even explain now how I felt back then. It was not rational but I guess no teen brain is rational.
I was dealing with a pedophile father and a grandmother, who was dearly loved, dying and being told that it was MY fault (I told on her son)...I wanted the pain to stop and I thought my being alive was making it all worse for those I loved... anyway... the BEST and HARDEST thing my mom could have done was take me to that hospital.
Hug your husband... bake cookies with the family that is home... you need to have "normal" time TOGETHER... Everyone is effected and everyone needs each other!

 

[adoptedbyachicken]

Please speak with the staff at the hospital about what YOUR going through. There is support for family that is set up. You need to be taking care of you, your life and the rest of the family, and they need to be doing the same so that the family unit is strong. Everyone needs treatment in these situations for success. No, you don't need to be admitted but there is still some things they can do.

Don't let them assume that due to your work you have all the information and coping ability you need. As you have said it is just not the same when it's one of yours.

Please take care of you now, while she is in care, so that when she is out you have the strength and resources to be there for her. Taking care of you includes seeing to your hobbies like the chickens, they are part of you.

 

[hoosierhen]

Hang in there! My daughter, now 27, had to be treated for depression when she was 13. It was an ordeal, and I had to will myself to keep going. (It was EXHAUSTING!!) I often said to myself at the time: " Just don't give up on her. If you don't give up, it will get better."
I also felt a lot of guilt, because I felt partially responsible for her problems because her dad and I had recently divorced. It's easy to get caught up in the "what if" game. What if I had tried harder, what if we had stayed together for the kids, what if...

 

[Cheryl]

Have the doctors come up with any possible links? At that age, kids in school are REALLY mean if she is in any way differant at all!!! My son went through hell (can I say that word?) in middle school. I'm sorry for putting it that way, but it is the best description I can give. I really hope that things that work out and she makes it through the crisis.

 

[Farmer Kitty]

Praying for you and your family. Things like these really do affect the whole family. Find some help for yourself, a support group, a great friend you can call and talk to at anytime, etc.

 

[cockadoodlemom]

Praying for your daughter and family.