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Don't do that. That's what my grandmother did (Dad's mom). No funeral, no memorial service. She donated her body to science so when she died, she just went away. 20-odd years later and it still feels very weird. The funeral is for the living. They need it, not you.
One of my good friends died after having battled Myasthenia Gravis for many years. Her request was that her body be donated to science for research on MG. There was a traditional funeral service (for which the mortician had prepared her beautifully -- she looked as pretty as I'd ever seen her except I couldn't see her clear blue eyes and bright smile. Her hair was nicely coiffed, her nails were polished, and her makeup was done expertly). After the service, the casket was put into the hearse and was driven (with no procession following) to a medical research facility somewhere around Louisville, KY. She felt that if any person could be helped by something that was learned from her body it was well worth it. I asked her how she came to that decision because some of her family disagreed (quite vocally) about her decision not to be buried and she said "what difference does it make to me? I won't be using that body anymore..."
That's Judy. Pragmatic to the last!
ETA to fix grammatical error that only became evident AFTER hitting "submit"