My Mom Has Depression, May Be Considering Suicide.*Advice Needed*

[Erin~TheChickenLover]

When people talk of killing themselves, it is a cry for help. I've suffered from depression and even went the suicide route when I was 21. Thank God I did not succeed. She needs to see a doctor who knows what he's doing. My mother had the same feeling in the back of her throat. Her doc kept telling her there was nothing wrong. She finally went to a different doctor and they found out her thyroid was pressing into her throat. Maybe your mom just needs to see a different doctor. Sometimes we keep going to the same one because we are comfortable with them. But it's not good when the doctor becomes complacent with the patient. Not saying that is what is going on, just that maybe your mom needs to get a second opinion.


I will be praying for you and your family.

What you said about the thyroid pressing into her throat makes me hopeful. We had feared that this might be throat cancer as cancer is common in my family. I told my mom and she seems hopeful as well. She wants to know, "What did they do about it?" I'm happy because it shows that she's thinking about the future. I agree that my mom needs to see a different doctor. She will not be going back to that hick she was seeing. Thank you very much for your reply. I appreciate it.

 

[Erin~TheChickenLover]

Maybe you can even show your Mom what you wrote and the suggestions listed here. I think often people don't realize they're not the only ones dealing with their specific problem, and maybe it'll help her to know that other people care about you and her. Cause we do

. And you and your Mom are definately in my prayers.

That is a good idea. Thank you.

 

[amorrill]

If she has an enlarged thyroid, she will probably need surgery to have it at least partially removed. Then she would have to take thyroid hormone the rest of her life to replace what the gland used to make. She ought to have that looked at, because cancer doesn't just pop up out of nowhere, it is often caused by a chronic, untreated inflammation.

 

[mar123]

First she will not go to hell, there`s no such thing. Now, tell your Mom how much you love her and how much you will suffer if she ever kills herself. Ask her to eat a lot of pumpkin seed, it may help with the symptoms of this hair thing in her throat. Go for walks with her, help her clean the house, all this little stuff will wake her up for the real world. If you don`t have a silkie chicken, then buy one, they are so good for people with depression. God bless you and your Mom.

 

[amorrill]

Please be helpful as others are trying to be.~Staff

 

[Chick N Haus]

(Another RN here) Problems with your thyroid can lead to emotional problems and mood swings. This may be most of her problem. Get her to another doctor that you trust and get this checked out. Meanwhile our prayers are with you and your family.

 

[jnjross]

yes Thats why she does need to go back to the Doc and let him know the meds shes on now has made things much worst. thats how my Doc finally started get things right, she learned more about what the problem was by my reaction to them than she did from the 2 years of blood work, scans and xrays.

 

[erinszoo]

Please know that talking to your mom will help her. I have COPD brought on by a lifetime of asthma that my parents refused to treat when I was a kid so my lungs are very damaged. I have recurrent pnuemonia and bronchitis so often that there are many days when I just don't want to go on. The hardest part about being sick is not knowing what's wrong or how to fix it and feeling like you will never be well again and I'm sure it's hard for your mom to find hope when one doctor has already let her down. Plus not being able to eat can make her blood sugar go off which will make her emotional. Try to fix her soups to eat or make her milkshakes, things that aren't hard to swallow but that will keep her strength up. When I start getting depressed my son comes in and talks to me and it really helps because I know I could never do anything to hurt him, no matter how much I don't care about myself. And take care of yourself too. You need to be able to share all of this with someone as well.

 

[J-Sanders]

My Dad went through Thyroid cancer a few years back and is doing fabulous today. There is always a better choice than suicide. You keep being helpful and guiding her to seek out the answer to her problem and she will come through just fine. Be honest with her. It does no one any good to shade the truth or leave things out. God bless you and yours for being there and caring enough to take on the effort to keep your Mom safe and healthy.

Jim

 

[tiki244]

My prayers are with you and your family Erin. Do seek help and talk about it. There has been so much good advice on here already. You cannot solve her problems ~ a professional has more resources. Do what you can to get to a doctor, and remember the suicidal phone assistance. If all else fails a comitment to a hospital would help. You would need your other family members to also agree with this so they can sign the papers. Calling a social services department in your area could help. Just make sure that you get a lot of support for yourself too.