My mom is dying *She's gone now **update*

[tonini3059]

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I am sorry to hear that I wish you a good fight! Some people do make it she was just unfortunate she had a rare aggressive type that was just found too too late. Pain and Nausea wise she is a lot better than when she was in the hospital, which is good because she was extremely bad even while there and they were running the nausea medicine into her arm she would be wretching.

 

[tothemoon]

You and your family will be in my prayers. My mother died in 1996 at the age of 53 from injuries in an auto accident......I was the driver. The accident wasnt my fault but I can tell you that it is a long hard road just to get to a point where you can deal with it on a day to day basis. She was my best friend and will be again when we meet in heaven. My Mom lost her Mom to cancer at the age of 73, very traumatic thing to have to go through. It does make me happy to know that she finally got to see her Mom again when she went to heaven. Just remember, this life we live here on earth is only a very short part of our journey and you will see her again, beautiful and happy as ever......one day.

Dear Lord, please be with this child of yours and her family at this very hard time in her life. Hold her up and help her to overcome her sorrow. In Jesus name, I pray. Amen.

 

[vnploveschickens]

I wanted you to know that I am thinking of you, your Mom and your whole family. Sending peace and strength to help carry you all through this difficult time.

 

[tonini3059]

I'm sorry to hear that to the moon that must have been devastating.. I am glad you finally overcame it. I just cannot believe how hard and difficult this is. Today I was looking at my wedding pictures and just seeing how happy my mom was that her little girl was getting married made me cry. Then my SIL want to put a nice album together for at the memorial service and just to give to my dad so I was looking through all of the albums. It just eats me inside how she looked and how happy she was.
I just wish it were me that was ill and not her. I was always the sick one when I was little and she would take care of me. I could deal with myself going through this rather than my mom.

 

[WalkingWolf]

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This was done for one of my MIL friends, the box was handmade by a family member and had area for the ashes and a drawer for pictures and mementos of the loved one.

I am so sorry you are losing your mother so young, but I believe she goes to a better place. Both my parents are gone and I miss them allot. But even though I am only 55 myself I have a wore out ticker. I have had a couple heart attacks and one I coded. While they were working on me, my mother was standing next to me welcoming me home. This happened one other time when I had a allergic reaction and came close to death. It seriously freaked my wife out when I started talking to my mother.

I see my Mom and Dad sometimes in my dreams and it is so real, not as much as I used to, I miss it. I am anxious for the day we are together again, and I hope my family understands that it is not a bad thing for me. I do hope to stay around a few years longer but know from family history that I will not make a hundred.

Trust me you will see her again.

 

[Whispering Winds]

So sorry about your mom! Losing a mama is never easy. I was 37 and just didn't think I could get over losing mom to pancreatic cancer. She was just such a special little old lady and made my day. Sending thoughts and prayers your way!!

 

[tonini3059]

I could only ever hope to be a quarter of the woman she was. She was always so warm and welcoming to everyone. Treated everyone like family. When I was 20 she welcomed my boyfriend into our home to live with us because he had no place to go and treated him as one of her own. Everyone just loves her she was never mean or spoke a mean word to or about anyone. She would do whatever she can to help out people the best she could. I am just afraid of forgetting her. Her smile, her warm touch, how we would scream and yell at each other till we were blue then 2 minutes later be best friends and do something together. They way she always comforted me when my husband and I would fight telling me what a wonderful guy he was and remind me of all the wonderful things he does for me. Most of all I will miss her warm hugs, even now she cannot hug or even squeeze a hand she just puckers up for a kiss. ANd how I am so much taller than her when I hug her i hug her head.

 

[tonini3059]

Here is a pic of us at my wedding a few months before she became ill.

 

[WalkingWolf]

You will not forget her, though you will learn to live with not having the physical relationship. Once I realized how real the dreams were I planned for them when I wanted to talk to her. Think of her before you go to sleep, were a keepsake from her to bed, maybe a ring or necklace. At first the dreams will come without control, after time you will be able to bring them when you need her.

I cannot tell you if my mom or dad is real in my dreams or just a dream. What I can tell you is my dad drowned while fishing. After we were notified and as I tried to sleep that night in July the room became freezing cold and I awoke to find my dad standing at the foot of the bed telling me things I needed to know. The strange part is the next day my wife said she saw him to.

My dad had family heirlooms hidden in the house that once was in a good neighborhood but as things turned not so good he hid them. I found every heirloom the next day exactly where he told me they were. The clothes he was wearing at the foot of the bed were exactly the clothes the coroner gave me they took off my dad.

This is not over between you and your mom by any means and in time you will look forward to seeing her again as I do my parents. My dad died when I was 28, my mother 10 years later. I lived in another state, but before she left she called to tell me she would be going soon and she was happy. I knew when I got the page from my secretary while on the road what it was before I even returned the call.

BTW I wore my Dad's clothes on every fishing trip I went on.

 

[ozark hen]

Walkingwolf, that was beautiful