My mom is dying *She's gone now **update*

[fasbendera]

She is going to be cremated. I have been looking at urns online because they funeral homes start at $500 and up and I just am not impressed. I think I found a couple that I like, but I will have to show my brothers and see what they think. She likes Hummingbirds

When my grandfather died my mother and aunt made a urn at a ceramics shop. The urn was already made and they did the glazing and the shop fired it. The funeral director put the ashes in it and and sealed it for them. I know it wasn't $500 and they made it so it had special meaning. Just a thought and my prayers are with you and your family.​

 

[BigSkyChickens]

Just throwing another prayer on the pile.......
stay strong, and don't forget to take a moment for yourself during this difficult time.

 

[Beekissed]

yet she seems to be surrounded by people who think she has no chance at all and will die inside of 2 weeks ?

Prepare as you will but please allow the possiblility (as painful as hoping can be) please allow the possiblity that she can be well.

There is a fine line between hope and denial. Hospice is probably really educating this family right now about what to expect during the dying process.

Hope comes in many forms....one can hope for a recovery and one can hope for a swift end to a painful terminal condition.

The doctors and medical staff who do this all the time try not to instill false hope while trying to prepare the family. They are not always correct about the time frame of a terminal illness, but they do their best to prepare the family and the patient.

I agree....miracles can and do happen.

I'm sure the family is not making arrangements in front of their mother, especially since she is so hopeful. But things like making arrangements for her death is part of the grieving process and it's called acceptance. It's healthy and appropriate, and much better than trying to make arrangements right after her death.​

 

[bargain]

I just wanted you to know that I continue to pray for you and if ever you just need to chat and I to listen, I'll be here for you.

May God hold and bless you both now and forever more.

 

[Sissy]

Tonini. I have continued to have
you and your Family in my prayers
.May God Bless all of you and keep you strong,
and care for mom in his loving arms.

 

[maplesky7]

Hugs for you and your mom.

Love in Christ's name,
Gretchen

 

[Eggs4Sale]

How is Mom doing today? Happier at home?

 

[Iowa Roo Mom]

and continued prayer for you Tonini.

 

[deerman]

Sorry to hear about your Mom. Lost mine to cancer also, and my older brother, he live 2 years after he was sent home to die. Got better,then the cancer came back, so dont give up hope.

I am finghting cancer now, stage 3. The meds. do make you see things, but can tell you After watching mom and my brother, they look like they are in more pain. The pain is not as bad as it looks, one reason Cancer is so hard to find.

 

[tonini3059]

Thanks guys. I guess she is happier at home I am not sure. Last night she asked why she was home and if we are making her better or not. I just told her that every time she was in the hospital she wanted to come home so we got her home and are doing the same stuff that they would do at the hospital. She just said oh ok. Since she gained the 30+ lbs water weight her skin hurts especially on her feet. I am constantly lotioning her up trying to keep it from drying out and splitting. She is getting that half the time she goes to the bathroom she cannot pee at all and when she does it is such a very little amount. She did ask my dad if she was getting better and he said yeah it is just going to take awhile. She is sleeping a lot more too and very heavy, which is very unusual because she is such a light sleeper. She said something weird to me today. She said that the painting is older than me. I said what painting because we do not have any paintings. She was like the painting it is older than you so I said wow I did not know that.