My only child got married...

[mzrea]

and I feel such a sense of loss. I bawled like a baby during their vows and I just can't seem to shake it. I raised my son for the most part alone. We were/are very close, some even said enmeshed. When he becomes president, the tabloids were suppose to read "President moves mother in as first lady"... I know he loves his wife and I know she loves him but he's my boy. My new DIL states on her facebook page how she loves married life and "my husband"... now wait a minute.. shouldn't that be "I love married life and Tina's son". I know I didn't lose a son, I gained daughter but still it hurts and I want my son back.

 

[NGT ANGL]

awwww

...just think of the future grandkids and what fun you will have with them!

 

[Barnyard]

I am so with you on this one!! I am no where near the point of having a daughter-in-law, son is only 13, but I still think about the "future" all the time and it just sickens me to think that my kids will leave home!! I have been a stay at home mom for 13 years. My kids are my world..... I will go crazy.

I am so sorry!! I sure hope things get better for you

 

[thechickenchick]

Oh I feel for you! I know my turn is coming, although not too soon I hope! My DS is 14 and I too raised him mostly alone. He is an only child as well. I think of how I will feel when the time comes. I will be so happy for him but I know I will feel a loss too. It is normal. Hang in there!

 

[Chickenmaven]

Oh, Tina, you gained a daughter! Perhaps you can double date with your son & DIL?

 

[Ol'FashionHen]

Add another to the list, I have only one child and he is 16.

... must not think of marriage...must not think of marriage

 

[JennsPeeps]

Invite them over for dinner and let them know how much you care about and miss them. Your DIL didn't take your son away from you and he'll always be your son. Make a point of being supportive and active in their lives - they may reward you with grandkids in the future!

 

[Whispering Winds]

You know the old saying, "a son is a son until he takes a wife, but a daughter is a daughter all of her life." So true. I love the idea of having more people to love in my family, my most fervent wish is for them to be happy. . .just love and trust and be happy. So many people are so unhappy in this day and age, I just don't worry about them getting married as much as I want them to be happy. Guess I am old. We just had a horrific thing happen to my daughter; her no good husband (and I kid you not, the only good thing I can say about him is he works) left her for his brother's wife, so two families devastated over this. It's always the kids who suffer the most, and there are five from 12 down to 3 involved. So sad. Guess that is what I mean when I say, be happy, trust and just love.

 

[PurpleChicken]

You and my mom should talk.

Mom's there for me now more than ever
while I'm on the other side of marriage, also know as divorce.

A wise old man once told me the only woman in life you can truly trust
is your mother.

(That's gonna get a lot of women here mad. Sorry.

)

 

[Chicken Fruit]

Yeah it hurts, its really really hard, but dont let it get to you. I married an only son, only child, only nephew, only child ever in the entire stink'n family... Let me just say that as hard as it is for you to have to share your son its even more frustraiting to have to share your husband with a gaggle of women who are overly entitled. We almost lost our marriage because his mother and father were soooo obsessive over him. They realized what they were doing not a moment too late.

Sons will always love their mothers, but you'll never have anything to show for it unless they have a family of their own. Just think, now he can make you some new babies to love... imagine if they looked just like him too! Wouldnt that be heart wrenchingly wonderful?

My son looked just like me as a baby, it was more than my parents could handle, made them cry every time they saw him. I had to take his diaper off from time to time just to bring reality back for them.

lol. Anyway, I can imagine your bitter sweet feelings of loss and gain... just dont let it get to you. You raise him to live his life, not be yours.